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Derek's Motto is Enlightening others to succeed through life's challenges.
Feel free to comment add helpful links. A Happy Mediumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13779707603960492624noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8851381834098706543.post-61999167572902052932017-10-04T08:54:00.000-07:002017-10-05T04:22:07.828-07:00The amazing yellow pill, Protandim by Derek McGillivray<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Why Free Radicals are Harmful to the Body<br />
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Free radicals are highly unstable, reactive molecules with an unsatisfied electron pair. They scavenge the body in search of electrons, thereby damaging cells, proteins and DNA.<br />
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Free radicals arise from both internal and external sources, including breathing, metabolism, inflammation, pollution, sunlight, exercise, smoking and consuming alcohol.<br />
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An excess of free radicals causes oxidative stress.<br />
Protandim is the most potent antioxidant therapy today.<br />
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In living life to the fullest our bodies generate oxidative stress--a physiological imbalance between free radicals and the body's antioxidant defense system.<br />
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Oxidative stress occurs when our cells generate dangerous byproducts known as free radicals. Free radicals, highly reactive molecules with unpaired electrons, roam the body in search of other electrons and in the process, seek out and destroy healthy cells.<br />
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is a breakthrough in nutrigenomics and the fight against ageing that uses ingredients to harness the energy of youth—mitochondria. A SCIENTIFIC BREAKTHROUGH FOR THE AGES With age comes wisdom and maturity. <br />
That’s the upside. But you also get all the wrinkles, more aches, and overall lack of energy. Getting old isn’t easy. We get it. We also understand why. Thanks to breakthrough in nutrigenomics, we’re able to fight the signs of ageing at the cellular level—right where ageing occurs. It’s called Protandim NRF1 Synergizer, and it’s revolutionising health and wellness. THE MIGHTY MITOCHONDRIA Unfortunately, we still haven’t discovered the fountain of youth. But we finally understand why we age. Every day, your cells are damaged by free radicals from natural processes like breathing and from pollution in your environment and diet. This leads to oxidative stress and a breakdown of your health at a cellular level —one of the main contributing factors to the ageing process. One of the most crucial keys to slowing the harmful effects of ageing and restoring a youthful feeling to your body is living in your cells. <br />
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They’re called mitochondria. Mitochondria produce up to 95% of the energy your body uses. But those muscular, microscopic powerhouses break down as you age. It’s a natural part of oxidative stress. But fewer mitochondria don’t just mean less energy. Mitochondria also produce ATP (Adenosine Triphosphate)— the source of cellular energy that pumps our heart, supports muscle growth and maintains healthy brain function.</div>
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The idea is simple: produce new, more powerful mitochondria, and you’ll feel younger and more energetic from the inside out. And that’s where Protandim NRF1 Synergizer steps in. It’s a new breakthrough in nutrigenomics that wakes up your body’s ability to boost mitochondria production, protect the ones you have and restore youth to your body at the cellular level. Protandim NRF1 Synergizer, combined with the Protandim Nrf2 Synergizer, gives us a new way to improve cellular health and support healthy mitochondrial function as we age.*<br />
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Rhodiola Rosea (Root) Extract — Rhodiola rosea L. is a plant from the Himalayas which contains bioactives (salidrosides) that stimulate NRF1 and mitochondrial biogenesis and helps protect the endothelial cells from oxidative damage. It also actively stimulates ATP synthesis or re-synthesis in muscles during exercise. It is an adaptogenic herb with a bioactive that stimulates the NRF1 protein. Rhodiola Rosea (Root) Extract is used around the world to increase resistance to fatigue and helps with high altitude adaptation. <br />
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Coenzyme Q10 — It is made in the body and resides primarily in mitochondria where it plays a key role in transporting electrons so ATP is made. So ingesting CoQ10 has 2 benefits: it is already made so it helps compensate when the aging body makes less of it and it carries electrons towards their final destination – the making of ATP. Combined with Alpha Lipoic Acid, it supports cellular energy levels, stress response and antioxidant defense mechanisms. <br />
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Alpha-Lipoic Acid — Alpha lipoic acid, or ALA, is made in the body and helps to turn glucose into energy that the cell can use. ALA is able to neutralize free radicals because of its thiol groups and because it is both fat and water soluble, it can protect all parts of the cell (including the mitochondria) from these free radicals. So ingesting ALA has 2 benefits: it is already made so it helps compensate when the aging body makes less of it and it neutralizes free radicals that escaped the path toward making ATP. <br />
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Grape Extract — This extract, made from the whole grape (seeds, pulp and skin), contains powerful natural polyphenols (flavanols) known to have anti-aging capabilities. The bioactives help activate the NRF1 protein and other anti-aging pathways. <br />
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Quercetin — Quercetin is a naturally occurring antioxidant, a flavonoid that is abundant in various fruits and vegetables. It is a NRF1 activator that promotes mitochondria biogenesis and helps prevent mitochondrial decay. Quercetin contains polyphenols that help to protect the mitochondria and their function which supports ATP synthesis. <br />
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The CoQ10 found in Protandim NRF1 Synergizer is best absorbed when in the presence of fat (from the creamer or milk in your coffee). So for best results, take NRF1 with a small amount of fat. But for those of you that are on a calorie-restricted diet and would prefer to take the supplement with water, feel free as you will still absorb some of the CoQ10 without fat present. <br />
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The 30 minutes between intake of Protandim NRF1 and Nfr2 allows for the nutrients in NRF1 to be absorbed into the bloodstream where they can take effect (aka begin their signaling duties) before the nutrients from Nrf2 are introduced into the system. This ensures that each supplement can provide the greatest benefit by minimizing the potential of any interference between nutrients found in each product. <br />
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A Happy Mediumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13779707603960492624noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8851381834098706543.post-68956248158106487162017-04-17T14:13:00.001-07:002017-04-17T14:13:29.643-07:00Life never stays the same, so embrace change as part of your life!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Fear of change? In my life I've had to come out of comfort zones, enforced change by no fault of my own, life throws you stuff unexpectedly. But when we look back the lessons we learn, the new skills, and the confidence you gain is worth no amount of money, but its worth as much as a pot of gold, plus we gain the strength from within. So if you need to change or accept change, do it with an open mind and embrace the new experiences with a strong heart and a determined positive mind!</div>
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How many of us have got into the habit of waking up and looking at our phones, Facebook, and so on. We don't allow ourselves time to fully wake up, we get back into that stress fullness behaviour straight away. If we tried just to listen to soft music or to the sounds of nature outside, Kids playing and talking, sitting down to eat a proper breakfast. Not the news and all the heavy stuff on TVs and phones especially if you know you have a busy day ahead at work, why take on the worlds problems as well, when you have your own stuff to deal with, focus on what you can influence on the day.</div>
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Don't be bullied into doing what you don't want to do!<br />very often I get clients who are stressed and burnt out as they don't know how to say no.<br />What I can suggest you say instead is</div>
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<b><i> Sorry that doesn't work for me just now!</i></b><br />I am Fine we say to our friends.<br />Let's define FINE<br />F Frustrated <br />I indecisive<br />N Neurotic<br />E Exhausted<div>
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<br />As all things are created by our thoughts let's start with a Happy thought.<br />Define HAPPY<br />H Healthy<br />A Abundant <br />P Persistent <br />P Positive <br />Y Youthful <br />Fine is not good enough.</div>
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<br />Let's just say Sod it to all our money issues and have no judgement around money and just accepting things as they are. <br /><br />Money is just an exchange, imagine a world with out money, if what you have to offer is worth enough to other people, then they'll give you lots of things in return E,G I need flowers in my garden in return or painting done so that's what my exchange would be I would then have loads of nice colours around me making me happy, which I would value. <br /><br />We are simply in a constant process of exchange for value with the world, the more the world values you the more you get back, what tends to happen is that the more you value yourself, the more the rest of the world will tend to agree and value you as well. </div>
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Now write your contract to yourself like this below<br /><br />My “Contract for Change” with myself <br /><br /> <br /><br />I, …………………………………………………… take personal responsibility <br /><br />for creating change within my life. I will begin the PROJECT(S) called <br /><br />…………………………………………………………………………………… <br /><br />…………………………………………………………………………………… <br /><br />…………………………………………………………………………………… <br /><br />and formally make a contract with myself to see this project through. I have <br /><br />listed the benefits of living in the solution and I know who I need to become <br /><br />to complete this project, and I hereby declare that I will commence living in <br /><br />the solution and being the person I need to be. <br /><br />Signed: ……………………………………………………………………… <br /><br />Witnessed: ……………………………………………………………………… <br /><br />Dated: ……………………………………………………………………… <br /><br /><div>
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Write a letter from the future, describing what your life is like now that you have achieved your goals successfully. Do it for each goal Address it to yourself with the date that it is to be achieved. Tell yourself in detail how your life looks, feels, and who you have become as a person at the time of achieving your goal. Remember to write down what you need in your life as much as you want, Take your time.<div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Dealing with rejection can be painful, whether it happens at work, at home, at school or in relationships.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Rejection comes in many forms and it can be tempting to wallow in self-pity and despair when we have been rejected. Fortunately, there are things we can do that can help us handle rejection with dignity and purpose. Everyone experiences rejection – it is what we do in response that determines how we feel about ourselves. Rejection is scary, because it reminds us that we cannot control people and circumstances. Here are a few ideas of things we can do to overcome the</span> rejection blues.<br />
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<b>Be Aware of Your Emotions</b><br />
Rejection is a form of loss, creating the sense of losing something we thought we had. Being rejected can feel like an outright violation of our expectations, which is why many of us feel offended when we are rejected. When the rejection is very painful or unexpected, it can be scary, making us feel as though the world we live in is unsafe and malevolent. When things do not go the way we expect, we often feel devastated and powerless, especially if we are very attached to a particular outcome.<br />
We can acknowledge our loss, reminding ourselves that our feelings are never unacceptable or wrong, but they are also not entirely true. No matter how extreme or violent our feelings might seem, though, it is important to give ourselves the opportunity to experience them. Anger, sadness and disappointment are all natural responses when dealing with rejection. We can allow for our feelings, whatever they are, without holding onto them. We can let them come, and let them go.<br />
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When rejection occurs, one of the ways many of us automatically respond is with denial. We may tell ourselves that this is not happening or that this is all a mistake that will soon be corrected. Denial is a mechanism of self-defence. We deny that something unpleasant is happening because the reality is too painful. We can gently correct ourselves by saying, "This is happening, and it will be okay. This does not mean that I am a bad person or that I have done something wrong."<br />
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Another common impulse when dealing with rejection is to isolate and to cut ourselves off from support. This is another way that we unconsciously try to protect ourselves from more pain. Many of us equate relationships (revealing ourselves to others in work, love, family and friendships) with the disappointment that sometimes occurs in those relationships. <br />
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<b>Take Action and Get Moving</b><br />
It does not matter what we do, only that we take action and get moving. We can do dishes, pay bills, organise or finish up that work report we have been neglecting. Purposeful movement clears the mind of the stagnant energy and negative emotions that hang around when we are dealing with rejection. This is a perfect time to do something we have been putting off.<br />
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We are probably thinking, "What’s the use? I will still be miserable, and it will not change the fact that I have been dumped/passed over for that promotion/turned down by my number-one choice for college or school." We can choose to think about it differently. We can be heartbroken in a messy living room that makes us feel even more miserable, or we can take constructive action that will likely lift our spirits and self-esteem.<br />
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Action has a wonderful way of breeding self-confidence and feelings of empowerment. You will feel less like a victim of your circumstances when you take action in an area you can actually control. Though it may sound like torture to suggest cleaning a closet after what feels like the most painful breakup in history the sooner we get moving, the better we will feel.<br />
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It is okay to resist for a while. As soon as we are ready, we can give it a try. If it still seems like an insurmountable, useless task, we can make a deal with ourselves to try it out for fifteen minutes. If we want to stop after 15 minutes, we can stop. But we usually find that the momentum of positive, productive energy created in just those 15 minutes is sufficient to make us want to keep going.<br />
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<b>Be Kind to Yourself</b> <br />
One of the best times to do something nice for ourselves is when we are dealing with rejection. This serves a dual purpose: we get to do something enjoyable, and in so doing, we also prove to ourselves that we are worth the effort and attention. We can buy ourselves a special gift or get a massage, manicure and pedicure. We can set aside a day in the coming week to do whatever we want to do, whether that means browsing in a bookstore all afternoon sipping coffee, or losing ourselves in an art project. Planning ahead for "me" time brings with it the gift of something to look forward to, which makes difficult situations infinitely more bearable. <br />
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What it does mean, however, is that our thoughts colour our experiences. We have the power to use past success as evidence that future success is possible and, indeed, probable.<br />
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Rejection is a bitter pill to swallow. But its purpose is not gratuitous pain. If we have relationships with other people and if we regularly take risks, rejection is inevitable. Like any experience, rejection teaches a valuable lesson that we simply cannot learn any other way. We can always choose to see that value, although it may be difficult at first. Dealing with rejection in one area of life can teach us to deal more gracefully with our next experience of rejection in a completely different area. Lessons like these build on themselves. We can use our past experiences of rejection to make our future experiences less painful.<br />
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Whether it is a pet, a relative or a stranger, this strategy is particularly effective for coping with rejection. Focusing on someone else’s needs for a time reminds us that we are not the centre of the universe, and that our disappointments are not as devastating and all-encompassing as we make them out to be. Perhaps someone we love is ill, confined to home or hospital bed. We can ask if there is anything we might help that person with, being grateful for our health and our ability to offer help.<br />
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Feeling useful is a fail safe cure for self-pity. We can call a friend and ask how she is, without mentioning or complaining about our circumstances. Take the dog for an extra-long walk, or spend time snuggling with the cat – such small, loving actions centre us, bring us great comfort and remind us that we matter to other beings.<br />
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Rejection can make us feel as though we are failing, and can even lead us to falsely assume that not only have we failed, we are complete failures. Reminding ourselves of specific successes is a great way to remember our assets and accomplishments during a time when we are tempted to focus only on the negative. By focusing on the positive, we give it power in our minds, in our actions and ultimately in our circumstances. This does not mean that thinking positively will ensure that we never experience disappointment.<br />
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My card for the first week in Jan is Review and Contemplation<br />It's about living in the present and making the most of what you have and being thankful you have a new year to live life to the full. Find the real you and be that wonderful loving person you are, create new positive thoughts that bring all you need in life. Happy New Year x<div>
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This 2017 is a one year in numerology as year of change and new beginnings is linked to the Magician card. The Magician's number is One, the number of creation and individuality; his power is transformation through the use of his will. In his manipulation of the basic elements into all the substances and materials of life, he shows us that from a foundation of the mundane can emerge all that is to come. He can take the Nothing from which the Fool emerged and shape it into Something, making one out of zero. Clearly this is power of a divine sort, and it is true that the Magician is a conduit for a higher power, which commands all of the material world. Since all that we can see in the physical world is the conduit himself, the acts he performs often seem like magic.</div>
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<br />The Magician may seem like a strange title for someone who holds real power, because the word "magician" tends to conjure up pictures of illusionists and escape artists, whose power involves sleight of hand and misdirection. The Magician, however, is similar to the stage illusionist in many ways. He is confident in his skills and his ability to produce the effects that he wants. His real power comes from sources outside of him, and he is powerless without these sources, just as an illusionist depends on people "behind the scenes". Both magician and Magician, however, are as important to their powers are the powers are to them. Without a conduit, power itself is impotent and useless.<br /><br /><br />With his powers the Magician holds influence over all - theory and practice, logic and emotion, thought and action. Almost every modern depiction of the Magician includes one or more symbols of infinity to denote his limitless power; the snake eating its tail and the lemniscate (horizontal figure-eight) being chief among these. This limitless power comes from sources outside his body yet under his control. And as long as the Magician remembers that this power is his to command, even if he loses all of his worldly power and skill he can never truly be called powerless. For his Will is a power that, while it can be subdued, it can never be destroyed.<div>
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Another nearly universal association with the Magician is the red-and-white color scheme. This theme recurs throughout the Tarot and it is very symbolic that it starts with this card and not the Fool. For while the Fool was the potential for positive and negative, the Magician is the union of positive and negative. He creates and he preserves; he destroys and he redeems. His true power is that he not only knows what he must do, but he knows how he must do it, and why he must do it. Then he does it. The Magician reminds us that a wish alone will change nothing, but a decision can change everything. A desire to create is nothing without an ability to create, and vice-versa.<br /><br /><br />When the Magician appears he shows that you are ready to become a conduit for power, like he is. The forces of creation and destruction have always been at your command but now you have the wisdom and confidence needed to use them constructively. Now is the time to act, if you know what is it you want to accomplish and why. Since the powers of transformation are at your command, change your desires into objectives, your thoughts into actions, your goals into achievements. If you have recently met with failure, now you can change that failure into success as easily as the Magician changes fire into water. The only limits you have are those you impose on yourself.<br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiybhEnB_Xs1QEBNDgatrphEWbEIibS1eXGoswn6TuC8wnirZlYwxG6r-sQ5DtrSqRI1TIOkREtWcp0IJUxsETPofIoV5v0mQiOizorY0puR87mIcKwEOsv6lO6tdp-8M3mUsdrx3MXHps/s1600/book.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiybhEnB_Xs1QEBNDgatrphEWbEIibS1eXGoswn6TuC8wnirZlYwxG6r-sQ5DtrSqRI1TIOkREtWcp0IJUxsETPofIoV5v0mQiOizorY0puR87mIcKwEOsv6lO6tdp-8M3mUsdrx3MXHps/s400/book.jpg" width="400" /></a><br /><br /><br />The outward manifestations of such power are as numerous as they are varied, but the most common outer effect of the Magician's influence is un swaying and total confidence. The realisation that the world is under your control is what inspires this kind of confidence, and with good reason. So go out into the world, set your mind to whatever goal you are interested in, and then just stand back and watch as everything falls into place under your command. Ultimately, the message of the Magician is a simple one despite his limitless and infinitely complex power. Your life is under your control. Your life is what you want it to be. Your life is what you make it.</div>
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Being alone doesn't need to be a negative, you! yes you! can turn it into a positive!<br />
Yes we all at times like to have that space and be alone, but when its forced on us we often fear it, we have gotten used to being with a certain person or family members, but life can change that, very quickly, kids grow up, people leave us unexpectedly, we loose that job and so on.<br />
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Being alone is not the same as being lonely. There is nothing wrong with being on your own if you are comfortable with it.<br />
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I always turn being lonely into a positive and use that time to plan and also process what has happen to make me feel lonely, we can all get depressed and down when alone and it can sometimes turn into a metal health issue, so stop and think about what you can do now to feel better.</div>
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<b>If your in a relationship or job where you feel alone then take action!</b></div>
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Join a trade union, speak to personnel, marriage guidance, go online look for groups to join, </div>
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I say if I don't want to do something because I feel that I need a bit of space is just say "sorry that doesn't work for me today"</div>
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There are many situations where we can struggle with being alone and feel afraid, very often we find that we aren't alone in being alone.</div>
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<b>Let's face it life can give us some really difficult challenges often when we don't expect it, we can feel alone, sad and frustrated. Then all of a sudden we get that energy inside to get us though that difficult time, but that energy inside us, is always there and is abundant, it's called love and light. Connect to yours today, feel that love and let it drive you through the challenges of life. Just say "I am made from love and light, I do have enough energy to overcome my challenge</b>s"</div>
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Using Open questions helps you connect to others.</h3>
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When we take that step and join a club or go somewhere to meet new people we have to learn to communicate, engage in open communication by asking open questions. try and avoid using closed questions as this stops the flow and we may loose interest and go back to our quiet selves and hide. We then go back to feeling lonely and we don't move forward.</div>
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By this definition 'Are you happy?' and 'Is that a knife I see before me?' are closed questions, whilst 'What time is it?' and 'How old are you?' are not. This causes a problem of how to classify the short-answer non-yes-or-no questions, which do not fit well with the definition for open questions. A way of handling this is to define 'yes-no' as a sub-class of the short-answer closed question.<br />
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As a follow-on from closed questions, to develop a conversation and open up someone who is rather quiet.</div>
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<tr><td style="margin-left: 4px; margin-right: 4px;" valign="top" width="50%">To find out more about a person, their wants, needs, problems, and so on.</td><td style="margin-left: 4px; margin-right: 4px;" valign="top" width="50%"><i>What's keeping you awake these days?</i><br />
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<i>Rob Jones used to go out late. What happened to him? </i></div>
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<tr><td style="margin-left: 4px; margin-right: 4px;" valign="top" width="50%">To get them to feel good about you by asking after their health or otherwise demonstrating human concern about them.</td><td style="margin-left: 4px; margin-right: 4px;" valign="top" width="50%"><i>How have you been after your operation?</i><br />
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Open questions begin with such as: <i>what, why, how, describe</i>.</div>
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Using open questions can be scary, as they seem to hand the baton of control over to the other person. However, well-placed questions do leave you in control as you steer their interest and engage them where you want them.</div>
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When opening conversations, a good balance is around three closed questions to one open question. The closed questions start the conversation and summarise progress, whilst the open question gets the other person thinking and continuing to give you useful information about them.</div>
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A neat trick is to get them to ask <i>you </i>open questions. This then gives you the floor to talk about what you want. The way to achieve this is to intrigue them with an incomplete story or benefit.</div>
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Being lonely at night time.</h3>
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A lot of my clients have problems at night time and find it hard to sleep as they worry about being alone, especially after the loss of a loved one, or the break up of a relationship. It takes time to adjust and often counselling can help, being more relaxed, Reading positive books, watching funny programs, write down ideas, I used to go for a drive and get out of the house, avoid caffeine etc. get advice on that, see your doctor, nurse etc</div>
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All you folk who have a troubled mind tonight just relax and let the Angels take over for a while. just feel yourself happy or what it's like to be happy remember a time you felt happy, and feel it now and how good it is to be happy, this Happy medium is now happy your happy, and if your not happy reading my happy post by now, then you will be happy as all this is trying to do is let you feel how happy I am you have read my happy post. If you can't get happy then just say sod this unhappy feeling I have and by now the universe is working on making you happy lol</div>
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Night all for Christ sake be happy !!!!</div>
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Happy dreams! </div>
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How mediation can help you over come loneliness. </h3>
Meditation, means being 'pleasantly anchored in the present moment'. With the hectic lifestyle people live in today, stress is a strong contributor to heart disease and high blood pressure. This is why it is important to learn to relax and relax our body. And this can be achieved through meditation. Meditation is easy for us to incorporate into our lives. <br />
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Meditation is becoming more and more popular every day and there is a reason behind this. Scientists study it; doctors recommend it and millions of people all over the world practice it every day. Why? Because meditation works. Meditation is not just a matter of belief or disbelief. Meditation can improve our achievements and it can help us,we can develop hidden talents and capabilities that we had forgotten we possess. Achieve more with less effort - that is the essence of Meditation. <br />
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Meditations can completely relax our body and mind and it can also make our brain more alert and make our heart relax. It refreshes us completely and gets us ready for another batch of work. It also helps us block out any distractions that may come across our way. <br />
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You don’t have to sit with knees crossed or anything funny, we all meditate at certain times of the day, like when were doing the Ironing, cooking, reading etc <br />
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So use that time when you feel lonely to meditate or try mindfulness, often this gives as an incite to ourselves and you may even enjoy it, this doesn't have to be done alone, there are groups and very often classes where you can be given guided meditations to start with.<br />
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There are lots of books on it and lots of CDs best to find you own way to meditate and just relax.<br />
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<b><u><span style="color: red;">If you have
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">it may be too
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">Not everyone
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">Be true to
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">The only
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">with the time
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">Don't be
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">they are not
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">Take the time
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">Leave your
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">for this is
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">Don't cloud
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">You have no
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">than you do
the raging of your passions.<o:p></o:p></span></span></i></b></div>
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">Do not quiet
these dreams nor quench your desires.<o:p></o:p></span></span></i></b></div>
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">For if you
do, your journey is ended.<o:p></o:p></span></span></i></b></div>
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">You have only
today to begin anew and follow your dreams.<o:p></o:p></span></span></i></b></div>
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">For in the
end all we have are our memories.<o:p></o:p></span></span></i></b></div>
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">When the
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="color: red;">No excuses,
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Remember to laugh and what made you laugh, remember what worked in the past, when you were lonely before, avoid the comfort zones i.e. eating and drinking to much just to cheer yourself up, if that is what you enjoy, ask people round, go see others, join a befriend group, often helping others you can help yourself. do that course you have always wanted to do, use that lonely time in a constructive way.</div>
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I really don't want to see you or help you get rid of an additive behaviour like Gambling and drinking as you aren't facing up to things, when we do that, have a list of things you can do when you feel lonely, hand write it as it helps to log it in to your subconscious mind. Stay focused on your well being and never be afraid to ask for help!</div>
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some useful web sites<br />
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<a href="http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/tips-for-everyday-living/loneliness/#">http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/tips-for-everyday-living/loneliness/#</a><br />
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<a href="http://www.royalvoluntaryservice.org.uk/">http://www.royalvoluntaryservice.org.uk/</a><br />
<a href="http://www.webofloneliness.com/">www.webofloneliness.com</a><br />
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Change is always around us and its how we deal with it, what the last few months and days have proved is, we all need at times to come out of our comfort zones and accept what has happened and move forward the mainstream media and poles would have had us believe that although the Brexit vote would be close, there was little doubt that, come the 23rd June, the British would opt for the ‘safe’ option and choose to stay in the European Union.<br />
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<br />We were assured that in the US, despite Donald Trump’s unlikely success in the race for the Republican party nomination, he was painted by most media as little more than a buffoon, he would stand little chance against the ‘safe pair of hands’, Hillary Clinton, in Tuesday’s election. Even though I was not impressed by either, I did feel change was coming.</div>
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<span style="text-align: start;">Come out of the castle you have built around yourself, and experience the new and wonderful, don't let the fear of change stop you from moving forward, embrace the new love and light your letting in!</span></div>
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<br />Many people have been shocked and dismayed by the unexpected change of these ballots. It doesn’t matter what side of the fence you were on we must accept that change is here, it’s like when I was a union official someone would come in and say “They can’t sack me!” Well I would say "You just have been it’s what you do about it now that matters."<br /> <br />Other, more nationalistic types have been overjoyed at the prospect of pulling up the drawbridge (or in America’s case, laying down a wall) to stop the slow ‘immigratory’ rot that they feel has set in and which threatens their proud heritage. <br />Some, like me, are somewhat bemused and rather curious about these interesting developments. While not holding a candle for any of the main personalities involved, I prefer to see these event as signalling the beginning of fundamental change to the established world order. </div>
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<br />No matter how you feel about Donald Trump’s victory or about Britain exiting the European Union, you must admit that people, the world over, are emboldened, hungry for change and ready to stick their necks above the establishment parapet like never seen before, even when you look back at other events like the Berlin wall being pulled down, change around the world is coming like it or not!</div>
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Although society’s definition of success may still be firmly rooted in access to material possessions, there are some strong signs that we are beginning to question the wisdom of doing things the way they have always been done and believing things that our parents and their parents have taught us to believe.<br /><br />The information age has ushered in a social media revolution that has made people around the world more connected in real time than ever before. At the press of a button, for example, this blog post can be shared with anyone, anywhere!<br /><br />This new super-connectivity is a catalyst that is helping to erode the pillars of established thinking and established practice. People are, more than ever before, starting to listen to their inner voices and think for themselves rather than allowing the established order to do so for them.</div>
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This means we start looking at our learned behaviours and taking a new look at what we have be told, we start to read between the lines and see the truth different than what is being said. as in life coaching we help you look at your learnt behaviours and ask are they the behaviours you still need or want? Its like when we look at helping someone stop smoking or loose weight, we ask what makes you eat the big cake? etc and we then establish learned behaviours, copping mechanisms and so on.</div>
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I have said in previous blogs that preparation is important that means setting small goals first, look at what you can influence now, even a small step leads to many more small steps, planing is good but plans can change or be changed unexpectedly that can put us out of our comfort zones, so rather than fear it embrace change, learn what you can to influence it in your favour.</div>
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I didn't know what to do at first and asked my mother and we ended up staying with my mother having to move from Aberdeen and stay in Fort William as I had more support from the family, that meant I had to look for work and what I could do, no high paying jobs here, so after getting all the benefits sorted out, I got involved in the local community by volunteering to be a mentor for a local charity and got training and though that met some great people and used my skills to help others, in return I managed to get grants and help to set up which was more of a hobby the A Happy Medium web site and gain the confidence to use my skills to help others and earn some money at the same time the rest is history, did I have to come out of my comfort zones yes and it was not always easy. </div>
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Halloween is here again and I wonder if some of you have forgotten where it came from, it is a time I remember my own family culture and I celebrate the fact that we live on, and our love ones sometimes choose this time to come back and see us, that is why according to some we dress up as to scare away the bad spirits.<br />
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Straddling the line between fall and winter, plenty and paucity, life and death, Halloween is a time of celebration and superstition. It is thought to have originated with the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain, when people would light bonfires and wear costumes to ward off roaming ghosts. In the eighth century, Pope Gregory III designated November 1 as a time to honor all saints and martyrs; the holiday, All Saints’ Day, incorporated some of the traditions of Samhain. The evening before was known as All Hallows’ Eve and later Halloween. Over time, Halloween evolved into a secular, community-based event characterized by child-friendly activities such as trick-or-treating. In a number of countries around the world, as the days grow shorter and the nights get colder, people continue to usher in the winter season with gatherings, costumes and sweet treats.<br />
Halloween’s origins date back to the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain (pronounced sow-in). The Celts, who lived 2,000 years ago in the area that is now Ireland, the United Kingdom and northern France, celebrated their new year on November 1. This day marked the end of summer and the harvest and the beginning of the dark, cold winter, a time of year that was often associated with human death. Celts believed that on the night before the new year, the boundary between the worlds of the living and the dead became blurred. On the night of October 31 they celebrated Samhain, when it was believed that the ghosts of the dead returned to earth. In addition to causing trouble and damaging crops, Celts thought that the presence of the otherworldly spirits made it easier for the Druids, or Celtic priests, to make predictions about the future. For a people entirely dependent on the volatile natural world, these prophecies were an important source of comfort and direction during the long, dark winter.<br />
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On May 13, 609 A.D., Pope Boniface IV dedicated the Pantheon in Rome in honor of all Christian martyrs, and the Catholic feast of All Martyrs Day was established in the Western church. Pope Gregory III (731–741) later expanded the festival to include all saints as well as all martyrs, and moved the observance from May 13 to November 1. By the 9th century the influence of Christianity had spread into Celtic lands, where it gradually blended with and supplanted the older Celtic rites. In 1000 A.D., the church would make November 2 All Souls’ Day, a day to honor the dead. It is widely believed today that the church was attempting to replace the Celtic festival of the dead with a related, but church-sanctioned holiday. All Souls Day was celebrated similarly to Samhain, with big bonfires, parades, and dressing up in costumes as saints, angels and devils. The All Saints Day celebration was also called All-hallows or All-hallowmas (from Middle English Alholowmesse meaning All Saints’ Day) and the night before it, the traditional night of Samhain in the Celtic religion, began to be called All-hallows Eve and, eventually, Halloween.<br />
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Spread some light and love today to those in your life going though the darkest challenges life can bring us at times. When we send it unconditionally with love, they then can see it's possible to recover and flower again!</div>
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One thing I have learnt you have to find yourself first and understand how you feel about yourself. It’s no use helping others and taking on their problems if you feel unhappy, sad, miserable, frustrated or crazy. You’re just adding to your own problems.<br />
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What a great feeling it is to help them, help themselves by sharing our experiences, which I think is the best gift to give, and tell you what it costs £0000. The more advanced we get in our mediumship; we can pass on some great learning’s and advice from our loved ones who have passed over plus some great information from the spirit world in general.<br />
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Yes we have sometimes to pay for readings from the more advanced mediums but in today’s world how many chat/advice lines do we phone that cost £0.45-£1.50 per min? lots and that’s not the psychic ones, Sprit is always there they don’t have answering machines and days off, there with us 24/7 (that doesn’t mean they watch us in the toilet or in bed etc. I have had some strange questions from clients about that lol)<br />
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If I had not been though hard times of loss when I was young working offshore with events like the Piper Alpha, loss of a brother to suicide and so on…. I could in some ways not do what I do, so yes I agree we need to learn, but it is also right to have fun and not feel guilty about it. Halloween gives us an opportunity to do that.<br />
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We work hard for the times we can spend lots on ourselves and family, we must learn to receive as well as give. I spent so many years running after folk fighting their battles for them I forgot about me, Ended up in hospital with a slipped disk with a choice have an operation or you will be in a wheel chair for life. I had to sit for 10 days and not move, but boy did that not change my life, and in some ways, the life of others as I took action then to turn it around as we do live in the now, not the past life or in the future. I live for the moment and enjoy it as much as I can good bad or indifferent. I think we should ask for stuff for ourselves and take a break from our lessons and just live for the moment.<br />
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I discovered that some of my late highland relations also had signs of psychic abilities and that Scotland has a history of mysticism . My great Gran Mary MacKenzie was said to have shown signs of psychic abilities the MacKenzie Clan are linked to the Famous Brahan Seer more info can be found on the Clan wed site www.clan-mackenzie.org.uk<br />
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Being Spiritual does not tie you to a church or a belief it is a way of life.I discovered that some of my late highland relations also had signs of psychic abilities and that Scotland has a history of mysticism . My great Gran Mary MacKenzie was said to have shown signs of psychic abilities the MacKenzie Clan are linked to the Famous Brahan Seer more info can be found on the Clan wed site www.clan-mackenzie.org.uk
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Remember today is a gift that’s why we call it the present I moved back to a small town Fort William after years of living in a big city of Aberdeen plenty to do lots of like mined folk, jobs etc now I wake up to quiet roads, beautiful scenery and fresh air.</div>
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The locals are here some of them are sad and depressed they don’t know what they have. We seem to forget about living a happy life and worry about the material stuff, when we lose that, we grow spiritually and long may it continue. By the way it’s ok to get angry and frustrated now and again it motivates us to take action, some sheep need their Sheppard and that’s what we are at times.<br />
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The night the photo was taken, was the first time I’d been to one of Dereks’ shows, although I had seen him for a private reading previously. I had been impressed with his reading for me, and had decided to go to the show to see how it all worked with a crowd. As the evening progressed, I felt very emotional, and was feeling slightly nervous. I don’t know why, as I wasn’t involved in any way. Near the end, Derek said he had a message for me, but it didn’t seem relevant at the time. I had been getting “visions”, and “smells” all night, of things I couldn’t make head nor tail of . Then he hit on the dogs theme….German Shepherds, to be precise! I had a lot of involvement with my sisters’ dogs, over the years. She had German Shepherds since her late teens, and I had looked after them a lot when she was away etc. I had also been the person who buried a couple of them when they died. I laughed to myself about it, and thought no more.<br />
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At the end, when I was leaving, I watched a couple of people who I didn’t know, take photos of Derek, standing in front of the seating area. I was drawn to the scene…although there was nothing to see. I eventually left, but found myself hanging back for some reason. I think I was one of the last to leave. I felt a bit sad as I went down the stairs…a feeling I quite often get if I am near the scene of a fatal accident, or if I go back to places I once associate with family and friends who are no longer with me. I threw it of, and went home.<br />
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The next day, I still had a feeling of “sadness” about me. I just couldn’t seem to throw it off. A few hours later, I came across a photo on Facebook, one of the audience had taken the night before. Derek was standing looking towards the camera, with a hand out stretched by his side. Looking up towards his hand was a hazy image of what looked to me like a LARGE DOG! I couldn’t believe it. Was this the dog who was communicating with me? The possibilities are endless. I haven’t been able to see Derek in person since, but when I do, I hope for a similar experience. I have worked on my own spiritual development since, but have not reached the level I need to act on my “visions” and feelings I get. I would love to work with Derek, for a while, and further develop my capabilities.<br />
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This was my second time going to Derek’s show, Derek and I became friends at his show there was a guy who Derek, had been drawn to and gave him some validations and messages from departed friends, then as he pulled away Derek said he felt two dogs “German Sheppard’s.” And if it meant anything to him, he said it did, after that Derek closed the show but Derek said to me that he did not have a photo for his profile/Facebook etc, so I took his phone and I took a few pictures for Derek. We did not think anything of it, then we went for a few drinks back at the hotel chatting away we both had a look at the photo and couldn’t believe what we were seeing in the photo the picture of the dog. We posted it on Facebook and Kenny commented on it saying it was the dogs. Amazing eh!<br />
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Time has a value and it has to be respected. Put a value on your time, are you worth more than a penny a minute? Break down what you earn in a day into minutes 1440 mins in a day, we sleep say 8 hours 480 mins, eat and drink, toilet etc say 2 hours 120 mins rest breaks 2 hours 120mins already that is 720 mins, add in me time with kids say 3 hours 180 mins that is 900 mins we don,t count, leaves say 540 mins for work and you will be shocked how little it can be, but how important it is to you, even at a penny a minute for a whole day that is £144.40 then take away the 900 mins the value has to go up. It all adds up, so do let others and yourself waste it, be proactive in your time management and learn to manage it better today!<br />
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Tiredness is where we want to shut off and sleep, but if we open our eyes take in the beauty of life, we will never grow tired of it, don't let the tiresome challenges of life ware you down, wake up to the possibilities to change that feeling, to one of being alert and in that moment, where we say Sod this I am going to stop and enjoy this moment, recharge and dump the negative thoughts that are killing my mind and stressing me out today! Be in that moment now before you end up killing yourself with regret of what you could of done to avoid it, if you don't like your situation change it! <br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">A big part of being a success is being fit and healthy enough to enjoy your success and have the energy to overcome the challenges we face, Imagine you have a golden goose that lays golden eggs.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">What's more important? <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">If you don't look after the goose, what happens to the
eggs?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">You don't get any!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">You can use today's tool to help determine which of
your Life Priorities are golden eggs, and which priorities nurture the goose so
it can keep giving you golden eggs. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Ideally, you need to order your priorities so the
goose (that's you!) is higher than the golden eggs (what you produce).<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">For example, <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">What's your most valuable financial asset? <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">You might think it's your house, but it's not.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">YOUR MOST
VALUABLE FINANCIAL ASSET<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Let's say your house (a golden egg) is worth £300,000.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">And that you (the golden goose) earn £40,000 per year.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Looks like the house is worth more, huh?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">But after 20 years, your house might be worth
£400,000, but over that time you have earned £800,000.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">So your ability to earn is twice as valuable as your
house.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Or the "golden goose" (you) are worth twice
as much as your most valuable "golden egg."<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">In light of this, how high should "Health"
be as a priority?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">ON AN
AIRPLANE WITH YOUR CHILD IN DANGER<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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the flight attendant is doing the pre-take off routine, what do they tell you
to do if there is a loss of cabin pressure?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Do they tell you to put your Childs oxygen mask on
first, or do they tell you to put your mask on and THEN help your child?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">They tell you to put yours on first. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Because if
you aren't in a conscious state, you can't help ANYONE.<span style="font-size: 10pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">This is an example when it is loving and compassionate
to make yourself the number one priority and put yourself first.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Do you feel better now about making
"Yourself" a priority in other areas of life, so you have something
to give to the people and work you love?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">I use this simple diagram to help me, try it for yourself!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">How often do you find yourself running out of time? Weekly, daily, hourly? For many, it seems that there's just never enough time in the day to get everything done. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">When you know how to manage your time you gain control. Rather than busily working here, there, and everywhere (and not getting much done anywhere), effective time management helps you to choose what to work on and when. This is essential if you're to achieve anything of any real worth. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Can you manage your time better? If so How?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Here’s some tips to help you:-</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">1) Realise that time management is a myth.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">No matter how organised we are, there are always only 24 hours in a day. Time doesn't change. All we can actually manage is ourselves and what we do with the time that we have.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">2) Find out where you're wasting time.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Many of us are prey to time-wasters that steal time we could be using much more productively. What are your time-bandits? Do you spend too much time 'Net surfing, reading email, or making personal calls? Start tracking how to track your activities so you can form a accurate picture of what you actually do, the first step to effective time management.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">3) Create time management goals.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Remember, the focus of time management is actually changing your behaviours, not changing time. A good place to start is by eliminating your personal time-wasters. For one week, for example, set a goal that you're not going to take personal phone calls while you're working. Delete those clients who never turn up on time or waste your time.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">4) Implement a time management plan.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Think of this as an extension of time management tip # 3. The objective is to change your behaviours over time to achieve whatever general goal you've set for yourself, such as increasing your productivity or decreasing your stress. So you need to not only set your specific goals, but track them over time to see whether or not you're accomplishing them.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">5) Use time management tools.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Whether it's a Day-Timer or a software program, the first step to physically managing your time is to know where it's going now and planning how you're going to spend your time in the future. A software program such as Outlook, for instance, lets you schedule events easily and can be set to remind you of events in advance, making your time management easier.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">6) Prioritise ruthlessly.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">You should start each day with a time management session prioritizing the tasks for that day and setting your performance benchmark. If you have 20 tasks for a given day, how many of them do you truly need to accomplish.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">7) Learn to delegate and/or outsource.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">No matter how small your business is, there's no need for you to be a one-person show. For effective time management, you need to let other people carry some of the load. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">8) Establish routines and stick to them as much as possible.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">While crises will arise, you'll be much more productive if you can follow routines most of the time.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">For instance, reading and answering email can consume your whole day if you let it. Instead, set a limit of one hour a day for this task and stick to it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">10) Be sure your systems are organised.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Are you wasting a lot of time looking for files on your computer? Take the time to organise a file management system. Is your filing system slowing you down? Redo it, so it's organised to the point that you can quickly lay your hands on what you need. </span><br />
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We all have concerns in life some we can influence and some we cant in the present, that can change in time. I have learnt though my own life lessons that we cant always change our concerns, especially in politics or the past, people dying, the meaning of Life and so on ...but when we Rewind and slow down, then Review this is a great process to look at when we review what we can influence, before we Re engage in life, more on my 3 Rs in previous blogs</div>
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All of us have a wide range of concerns in our lives – our housing, our health, our friends and family, the environment, weight issues, animal rights, sex and drugs and rock and roll, the universe of our concerns can go on and on, there are some things we can influence and some things we can only stay concerned about. we do have a choice.<div>
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The author and leadership guru Stephen Covey encourages us to only focus on concerns that we have control over. He outlines the “circle of concerns” as all of the stuff that worries us – and then a smaller “circle of influence” (within the larger “circle of concerns”) that only contains stuff that we can actually control.<br /><br />His point, of course, is that we should only spend our energy on stuff that we can do something about. Focus only on problems that lie within your “circle of influence.”</div>
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This is a guide I made a few years ago and its very easy to follow, I love doing a full numerology reading, with as much personal numbers as you can give, i.e phone numbers, house numbers, national insurance number, payroll number and even your full names, its also great for lovers or future lovers, planing dates for big occasions, the list goes on. If you want to try a numerology reading book a session with me but send me as much info as you can before hand, it takes time to sort it all out. Is great for birthdays is 40th or 21st. Enjoy this guide and feel free to leave any comments.</div>
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<b><span style="font-size: 14.0pt;">Numbering the Major Arcana Cards</span></b></div>
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1 The Magician<o:p></o:p></div>
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The Hanged Man<o:p></o:p></div>
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2 The High Priestess<o:p></o:p></div>
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Death<o:p></o:p></div>
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3 The Empress<o:p></o:p></div>
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Temperance<o:p></o:p></div>
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4 The Emperor<o:p></o:p></div>
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The Devil<o:p></o:p></div>
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5 The Hieroplant<o:p></o:p></div>
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The Tower<o:p></o:p></div>
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6 The Lovers<o:p></o:p></div>
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The Star<o:p></o:p></div>
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7 The Chariot<o:p></o:p></div>
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The Moon<o:p></o:p></div>
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8 Strength<o:p></o:p></div>
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The Sun<o:p></o:p></div>
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9 The Hermit<o:p></o:p></div>
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Judgement<o:p></o:p></div>
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The World<o:p></o:p></div>
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Justice<o:p></o:p></div>
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The Fool (Also 0 )<o:p></o:p></div>
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Your soul card shows who you essentially are: your higher
soul, spirit, self- the part of you that’s immortal and is believed to separate
from your physical body at death. According to many belief systems, the soul
assumes the particular personality it needs for expressing and developing
itself in each physical incarnation of lifetime. Determining your Soul Card:<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b>1. Add up the month,
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For example, Derek was born <st1:date day="8" month="12" w:st="on" year="1965">December the 8<sup>th</sup> 1965</st1:date>. Derek would add as follows:<o:p></o:p></div>
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8 (day)<o:p></o:p></div>
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12 (month)<o:p></o:p></div>
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1985 <o:p></o:p></div>
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<b>2.</b> <b>If your total is greater than 22 (the total
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For example, Derek would add 1+ 9 + 8 + 5, for a total of 23
as there is only 22 cards Derek then adds 2 + 3 = 5 <o:p></o:p></div>
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5 = The Hieroplant (often called the Pope card, good
teacher, spiritual, good listener, always seeking the truth, does more for
others than himself.) <o:p></o:p></div>
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<b>Identifying your
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Follow two easy steps to find your personality card:<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b>2. Use the number you
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card was a single-digit number, your soul card and personality card are the
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Hence Derek’s is still 5 The Hieroplant.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b>Having the same soul
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If your soul and personality cards are the same, you tend to
experience an innate agreement between your soul purpose and your personality –
what your ego and person desires are pulling you toward. Simply put you may
feel conflicted about what you do in the world and who you are in your heart of
hearts. This configuration also symbolises a state that you are growing into.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Example: Derek’s Soul
and personality cards are the same: The Hierophant. Derek is naturally a
spiritually oriented person. Because he had years of dogmatic religious
training, Derek won’t presently participate in anything that has to do with
religion. In time, Derek’s innate connection with divinity is likely to draw
him into practising, or even teaching, some type of non dogmatic spirituality.
(Derek is currently learning about the Tarot cards and intends to teach Reiki
which is a form of spiritual natural healing. He is also open mined and open to
new thinking and ideas.)<o:p></o:p></div>
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Totalling 19<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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If your birthday numbers total up to the number 19, you get
one more card than everyone else. I call this the mediating card because it
helps mediate conflicts, power struggles, or tension between your soul and
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<b>Finding your card for
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Example Derek’s<o:p></o:p></div>
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08 (day)<o:p></o:p></div>
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<u>2006 (year)<o:p></o:p></u></div>
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2026 2 + 0 + 2 + 6 = 10 The wheel of fortune.<o:p></o:p></div>
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In 2006 Derek got a new job with good earnings and for the
first time in years his health improved.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b>The General Card for
today: </b>Add the day, month, and year together.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b>Pinpoint today’s
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of your birth plus the current day, month, and year. </b>For example
Derek’s on the <st1:date day="11" month="7" w:st="on" year="2007">11/7/2007</st1:date><b><o:p></o:p></b></li>
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12 (month<b>) </b> 07<b> <o:p></o:p></b></div>
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</b>08 (day) 11<o:p></o:p></div>
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1965 (year) 2007<o:p></o:p></div>
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1985 2025<o:p></o:p></div>
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<li class="MsoNormal"><b>Add the two totals from step 1
together and reduce the resulting number. If that number is higher than
22, add its digits together to reduce it again.<o:p></o:p></b></li>
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Example 1985 + 2025 = 4010 4 + 0
+ 1 + 0 = 5 - The Hieroplant = Marriage, good advice,
religion, the higher self, mercy.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b>Locating your <st1:street w:st="on"><st1:address w:st="on">Personal Court</st1:address></st1:street> Card<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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Same method as before but if you have a number higher than
16 add them together again i.e. in Derek’s case 23 = 5 The Knight of Wands - A cleaver, honest, man who gives good advice<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b>The Court cards can
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01 The Page of Wands<o:p></o:p></div>
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09 The Queen of Wands<o:p></o:p></div>
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02 The Page of Cups<o:p></o:p></div>
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10 The Queen of Cups<o:p></o:p></div>
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0. THE FOOL: Youthful folly,
innocence, blinded by ignorance, listen to warnings, the novice. (The Fool is
number is also number 22)<br />
1. THE MAGICIAN- Self-control, skill, action, taking charge.<br />
2. THE HIGH PRIESTESS- Intuition, wisdom, mysteries, secrets, tenacity.<br />
3. THE EMPRESS: Fertility, abundance, mother, health, kindliness.<br />
4. THE EMPEROR: Willpower, ambition, stability, father, benefactor.<br />
5. THE HIEROPHANT: Marriage, good advice, religion, the higher self, mercy.<br />
6. THE LOVERS: Love, sexual union, beauty, emotional success, trials overcome. <br />
7. THE CHARIOT: The driving force, triumph, war, vengeance, providence.<br />
8. STRENGTH: Fortitude, courage, energy, success, self-discipline.<br />
9. THE HERMIT: Prudence, a lonely spiritual quest, treason, caution, inertia.<br />
10. WHEEL OF FORTUNE: The hand of fate, a turn for the better, luck, destiny,
abundance.<br />
11. JUSTICE: The law, truth, balance, control, a contract.<br />
12. THE HANGED MAN: Wisdom in difficulties, self-sacrifice, intuition,
initiation, prophesy.<br />
13. DEATH: Transformation, events beyond your control, ending corruption, a new
but difficult start, inevitable major changes. (the tarot will not predict an
actual death)<br />
14. TEMPERANCE: Management, economy, spirit transcending matter, moderation,
wise counsel<br />
15 THE DEVIL: Anger, violence, jealousy, greed, deceit, instinct, sexual
passion.<br />
16. THE TOWER: Catastrophe, repossession, ruin, adversity, calamity.<br />
17. THE STAR: Hope, goals, expectations, guiding force, enlightenment, bright
prospects.<br />
18. THE MOON: Dark forces, nightmares, illusion, hidden fears, danger overcome
through intuition..<br />
19. THE SUN: Happiness, joy, rebirth, freedom, happy marriage, success.<br />
20. THE LAST JUDGEMENT: A major decision, outcome, final result, rebirth,
problems overcome.<br />
21. THE WORLD: Successful completion, assured success, recognition, long
distance travel,<span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"> <o:p></o:p></span>harmony.</div>
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WANDS: This suit covers intellectual activities and career. <br />
CUPS: Represents emotions, love, pleasure and sensitivity.<br />
SWORDS: Involves struggles, difficulties and illness.<br />
COINS: Deal with material world, finances and property.<br />
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There are four court Tarot Cards to each suit: King, Queen, Knight, and Page.
These can represent people in the querant life or aspects of personality. Pages
& Knights can represent children or young people of either sex. The aces
indicate the beginning of a new activity and the Tarot Cards from two to ten
represent aspects of the querants life, past, present and future.<br />
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ACE: A new job or
enterprise, initiative, ideas, invention.<br />
2- dissatisfaction with material things, restlessness, thinking about events
happening elsewhere.<br />
3.- Overseas trade, planned travel, commerce, established strength.<br />
4.- Celebration, country life, socialising, prosperity, peace and concord.<br />
5.- Petty arguments between groups of people. A sham fight. Squabbles.<br />
6.- Victory achieved. Good news. The support of others. Recognition.<br />
7.- Valour. Winning against the odds. Overcoming opposition. Getting on top of
your troubles.<br />
8.- Communication. A message or letter. Swiftness. A speedy conclusion.<br />
9.- An uncomfortable wait. Gathering strength. Problems still to be dealt with.<br />
10.- Oppression. A burden that's hard to carry. Overwork. Emotional pressure.
Unpleasant news.<br />
KING- A cleaver, honest, man who gives good advice.<br />
QUEEN- An astute woman with a good business sense.<br />
KNIGHT- Change of residence. An enterprising young person.<br />
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ACE- The beginnings
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contentment, fertility.<br />
2.- Emotional and spiritual love. Love blessed by heaven.<br />
3.- Celebration, merriment, good friends. <br />
4.- Discontentment or depression may cause the loss of a golden opportunity.
Weariness. <br />
5.- Crying over spilt milk. <st1:place w:st="on">Opportunity</st1:place> is at
hand and there's new bridges to cross.<br />
6.- Childhood memories or friends bring happiness. Happy childhood.<br />
7.- Fantasy and illusion distract the seeker.<br />
8.- Putting the past behind you. A brave but difficult decision.<br />
9.- Satisfaction guaranteed- but beware of complacency.<br />
10.- Ecstatic personal and family happiness.<br />
KING- Sensitive and creative fatherly man.<br />
QUEEN.-Sensitive, visionary woman. Can sometimes get depressed.<br />
KNIGHT.-The grail knight. Romantic, artistic, imaginative. A message of love.<br />
PAGE.- A sensitive youngster. A bright idea. News. .<o:p></o:p></div>
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ACE- Triumph of the
will. The start of a forceful attitude.<br />
2.-A decision that requires an unprejudiced attitude. Intuitive understanding.
Amnesty.<br />
3.- Heartache. Rupture. Division. Delay.<br />
4.- Rest, retreat and solitude. A time of recovery.<br />
5.- Dishonour and loss. Betrayal by friend.<br />
6.- Travel or holiday. Escaping difficulties.<br />
7.- Theft, deceit, trickery. Beware of impostor.<br />
8.- Frustration, imprisonment. Criticism and sickness.<br />
9.- Worry, despair and neurosis. Bad dreams and pressing problems.<br />
10- Failure, tears, sadness or illness. But the worst is over and a new dawn
comes.<br />
KING- Critical man in authority. His decision is final.<br />
QUEEN- Sorrowful woman in authority. She understands pain and sadness.<br />
KNIGHT- A ruthless person. Acts quickly and will try to twist the law to their
advantage.<br />
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ACE- A golden opportunity. Abundance and improved financial
prospects.<br />
2.- Emotional ups and downs. Juggling the finances.<br />
3.- Skills appreciated. Esteem, honour and reward.<br />
4.- Saving money. Caution with money. Covetousness. Wealth invested wisely.<br />
5.- Poverty and hardship. Material troubles. Entangled relationship. Spiritual
poverty.<br />
6.- Gifts, presents, help at hand and generosity. Don't let money pass through
your fingers.<br />
7.- Impatience. Things will come in the fullness of time. Anxiety about money.<br />
8.- Success achieved by hard work. Skills in craft and business. Job
improvements.<br />
9.- A legacy, unearned money, material contentment, rewards. pleasure. Wish
card.<br />
10.- Stable home, riches, family life, success achieved.<br />
KING- Wealthy intelligent man. Valour, stability.<br />
QUEEN- Serious, intelligent, motherly woman. Opulence, security, generosity.<br />
KNIGHT- Dependable, responsible man. A bank manager or investor. Hard work,
perseverance.<br />
PAGE- An ambitious young person. Success in study and career. Management
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Be strong and practice the lessons from discernment, be en powered and take the control back from those situations where you have felt used and hurt by others. Discernment is a gift we are given to cope with life's challenges, use it wisely!<br />
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What does discernment mean?</h3>
In its simplest definition, discernment is nothing more than the ability to decide between truth and error, right and wrong. Discernment is the process of making careful distinctions in our thinking about truth. In other words, when we feel we are being lead up the garden path, by others, or when false promises are given. That can be in work, personal relationships or false claims by retailers etc.<br />
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In my own life I had to use discernment a few times, where I learnt not to give energy to those who I had once thought were genuine and then was miss lead, I never followed my gut feelings which I regretted at the time, from pyramid marketing scams, to love issues, we have all had that sort of experience at some point in our lives. Sometimes it's not the persons fault, they may have been miss lead themselves, or in some cases they are ill, so I still practice forgiveness but they have to forgive their actions as they are the ones who caused it.<br />
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If we stay in the anger or the hate mode, we only hurt ourselves, we have to let it go, and that to me is what discernment is all about. Letting go of that horrible feeling of being hurt and used, is a part of the healing process.<br />
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A lot of my clients come to me after such experiences, from a sudden change in relationships with their partner to being let down by others, even family, and its hard for them to let go and discernment is something we talk about, cutting the cords, not putting energy to such negative behaviours of others is hard, but its a way of letting go, we cant change the other person we can only change the way we feel about them.<br />
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As the cards say, we need to pay attention to the red flags, and when we practice discernment, we become free from the emotions and we can then take the control back, its not easy and we can ask friends to help by being with them and doing fun stuff, do a bit of meditating, mindfulness, clear away all the emotions and start with a clean sheet.<br />
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A card reading or a life coaching session can help, it helped me when I had to go though hard situation in my life, where its hard to let go. being playful with friends can help. The lesson of discernment is hard and it how you deal with it in the present moment that matters.<br />
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If we send Love and healing to them as they need it more than you, we change the way we feel, I remember once at a union meeting with the Oil companies and I really felt annoyed and frustrated with one of the main company directors who had lead us down the garden path a few times before, promised reviews and investigations about some of our issues and he did the opposite, one of my colleges from a different union who had been in the miners strike told me never get angry, just send them love as they need it more than you, discern yourself from the anger in that moment, as I remember his talk, I tried sending love instead of raising to his bate and getting worked up.<br />
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I went quiet and the thought came into my head, I stood up and said hey "Mr we can agree on something," he then went away on one of his rants about never being able to agree with a young militant trade unionist, who had shut down the north sea. I kept calm and made a bet with him that we can agree, he then said "OK what can we agree on?" I just said "We can agree to disagree!!", everyone burst out laughing, we did in fact talk and agree on a way forward, so that lesson of discernment was not easy but very effective that day.<br />
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We will never agree with or please everybody, accept that in life, debate your corner calmly and with reasoned debates, agree to disagree but move forward. It's our differences that make us unique, new ideas or thoughts can bring fear and frustration, when we accept change and work though it together, you learn to appreciate that some changes are for your greater good, life brings us challenges its how we deal with them in the now that matter. To have peace and love in your life learn to compromise and accept change with and open heart. If others cant see that, then practice discernment and don't look back!</div>
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See the solution now, don't wait for it to come to you, grab the moment and turn it into that special time, where we try a new direction, that could lead you to achieve success. The best plan is one that can be changed to create that victory!<br />
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<b>Don't let negativity close your eyes to the future possibilities! Use the lesson of discernment to achieve the success you deserve.</b></div>
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As I said in the video the word Discernment has Biblical meaning for those that are interested here it is.</div>
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The spiritual gift of discernment is also known as the gift of "discernment of spirits" or "distinguishing between spirits." The Greek word for the gift of discernment is Diakrisis. The word describes being able to distinguish, discern, judge or appraise a person, statement, situation, or environment. In the New Testament it describes the ability to distinguish between spirits as in <a href="http://biblia.com/bible/esv/1%20Corinthians%2012.10">1 Corinthians 12:10</a>, and to discern good and evil as in <a href="http://biblia.com/bible/esv/Hebrews%205.14">Hebrews 5:14</a>.</div>
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The Holy Spirit gives the gift of discernment to enable certain Christians to clearly recognize and distinguish between the influence of God, Satan, the world, and the flesh in a given situation. The church needs those with this gift to warn believers in times of danger or keep them from being led astray by false teaching. See also <a href="http://biblia.com/bible/esv/I%20Corinthians%2012.10">I Corinthians 12:10</a>, <a href="http://biblia.com/bible/esv/Acts%205.3-6">Acts 5:3-6</a>; <a href="http://biblia.com/bible/esv/Acts%2016.16-18">16:16-18</a>; <a href="http://biblia.com/bible/esv/1%20John%204.1">1 John 4:1</a>.<br />
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Mindfulness meditation practice couldn’t be simpler: take a good seat, pay attention to the breath, and when your attention wanders, return. By following these simple steps, you can get to know yourself up close and personal. In my video above you can try a short mindfulness meditation, listen to the lovely sounds of the water, from River Nevis, beside Ben Nevis, Fort William where I live.<br />
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I remember as doing a mindfulness meditation, I was drawn to a leaf with a tear and I came up with this.</div>
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As I am crying for your loss.</div>
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As today I will be there next to you!</div>
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Once you learn the basics the benefits are far reaching, in your work and play, you will feel closer connected to the divine. This poem came from my heart and after doing a session with someone who lost her husband and it had been on my mind all that day, when I relaxed doing the mindfulness I was drawn to this and I have posted it on Facebook a few time just at the right time, for some of my clients.</div>
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Lots of people live their life in a mindlessness state. A state where our attention is divided between many things. A state of not really being present in our own lives.<br />
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Have you ever eaten a bar of chocolate and suddenly realised that all you had left in the palm of your hand was an empty chocolate bar wrapper? or driven somewhere and you cant even remember the journey. Most of us have!</div>
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This is 'Mindlessness', a dreamlike state, where we're not quite there in the moment. In this modern world, we become so busy getting things done, that we fail to notice the beauty of life and how quickly it is passing us by. One of the reasons I was successful with in the Trade Union movement was, I trained myself to be aware in the present moment, also had some very good training from media experts, who trained us to be aware in the present as we never knew when a camera or mic would be put in front of us. I did notice how some of my fellow workers didn't really listen to what was being said they were being mindless instead of being mindful, this is when negative policy's or actions get passed because we let them by being mindless in that present moment. so its important to practice being mindful, if the life guard wasn't focused on what was going on in front of him, he wouldn't be able to save a life.<br />
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This does not mean we don't take action after becoming more aware, we can all sit in at meetings that are boring and we loose focus, we let our minds wander or we day dream, but say the meeting is important to you, we have to be mindful of whats being said and the actions of others in the room or we need to point out things that mean something to us, then in the present moment, so we can change others feelings or points of view, we don't just want to be like sheep do we?</div>
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Mindfulness and meditation has always been very important to me in all aspects of my life, you don't have to be an expert to practice it, I have sat in my car, on trains, riversides like in the video, its not to important the where but here are some pointers I got for you from the internet, as having a bad back myself its important how we sit.</div>
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Here’s a posture practice that can be used as the beginning stage of a period of meditation practice or simply as something to do for a minute, maybe to stabilise yourself and find a moment of relaxation before going back into the fray. If you have injuries or other physical difficulties, you can modify this to suit your situation.<br />
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Try not to have any expectations about any part of the meditation. Just let your experience be your experience. It is important to note any details as soon as possible following the meditation, as these will be hard to recall later. Every time you carry out the meditation, make a note of your experience<br />
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One of the things I took from my own Mindfulness learning was to keep a Rain Diary, try this yourself and do your own research and if you need help please get in touch, I use Mindfulness a lot when I life coach clients, before a mediumship reading etc or just before a big event.</div>
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R - RECOGNISE WHAT IS HAPPENING <br />
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You can awaken recognition simply by asking yourself: “What is happening inside me right now?” <br />
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Call on your natural curiosity as you focus inward. Try to let go of any preconceived ideas. <br />
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A - ALLOW LIFE TO BE JUST AS IT IS <br />
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Allowing means, “Letting be”, the thoughts, emotions, feelings, or sensations you discover. <br />
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You may feel a natural sense of aversion, wishing that unpleasant feelings would go away. However, with some practise, you will become more willing to be present, with, 'What is', and a different quality of attention will emerge. <br />
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Allowing is intrinsic to healing, and realising this can give rise to a conscious intention to “let be.” <br />
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Instead, listen in a kind, receptive way to your body and heart, bringing awareness to whatever thoughts, emotions, feelings, or sensations are arising, right here and now. <br />
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Investigation means calling on your natural interest. It’s the desire to know truth and a more focused attention, to your present experience. <br />
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Simply pausing to ask, “What is happening inside me?”, might initiate recognition, but with investigation, you engage in a more active, pointed, line of enquiry. You might ask yourself: <br />
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“What does this feeling want from me?” <br />
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N - NATURAL AWARENESS <br />
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The first three steps of RAIN require some intentional activity. <br />
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The ’N’ of RAIN, expresses the result; a liberating realisation of your Natural awareness. <br />
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There’s nothing to do for this last part of RAIN. Realisation arises spontaneously on its own. We simply rest in Natural awareness. <br />
Questions for RAIN Practise Diary <br />
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2. R – Recognising - What was happening inside me? <br />
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5. N – Natural Awareness What happened next as you opened awareness?<br />
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Enjoy practising Mindfulness and if you need help feel free to contact me.<br />
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Good reading in the <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/elisha-goldstein-phd/7-things-mindful-people-d_b_5413559.html" target="_blank">Huffington Post</a><br />
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<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/elisha-goldstein-phd/7-things-mindful-people-d_b_5413559.html">http://www.huffingtonpost.com/elisha-goldstein-phd/7-things-mindful-people-d_b_5413559.html</a></div>
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A Happy Mediumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13779707603960492624noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8851381834098706543.post-48974789173634842212016-10-05T08:08:00.001-07:002016-10-05T08:19:05.650-07:00Let enthusiasm drive you forward to achieve your goals!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Let enthusiasm drive you forward to achieve your goals, the Law of Attraction and Cosmic ordering works better if we believe in our goal and its what we need now. The enthusiasm and emotions we put behind it, is just as important, being so positive that it annoys others is good, just keep going and trying learning from failures be S M A R T.</div>
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<b><u>Who crated the SMART goals</u></b></div>
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The SMART acronym first appeared in the November 1981 issue of Management Review. "There's a S.M.A.R.T. way to write management goals and objectives." was the title and it was written by George Doran, Arthur Miller, and James Cunningham.<br />
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Good PDF download explaining more about SMART goals here I found on the web </div>
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<b><u>What Is A Smart Goal?</u></b></div>
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<b><u><br /></u></b>Goal setting is a powerful way of motivating people. Goals provide a clear idea of what we are trying to achieve. Goals allow us to measure our progress. We are able to plan what we need to do to achieve these goals through people, time, resources etc. </div>
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The goal should identify a specific action or event that will take place. Answers the question: Who and What? <br />
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Include in the specific goal statement the measurements to be used to determine that the results or outcomes expected have been achieved. It answers the question: How? <br />
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Goals should challenge people to do their best, but they need also be achievable <br />
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Goals need to pertain directly to the performance challenge being managed. <br />
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Enough time to achieve the goal And Not too much time, which can affect project performance. It answers the question: When? </div>
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I have used this process a lot in my life and I would not recommend it if I had not tried it myself, one of the most memorable times was when I was involved with Fort William, Football Club as vice chair we needed to raise funds to help the club survive in the Highland League, I set a fig of £15000 put it out there and wrote it down in places I could see, I managed to raise it very quickly by being positive and enthusiastic about what and why we were trying to achieve our goals.</div>
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We won our first game in 3 years not long after that, as the whole club started to believe anything was possible. One of the most amazing things that happened also was when we got the sponsorship of £15000 we came out of the club house and there was this amazing rainbow, surly a sign from above!</div>
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Tip 1. Attach a date to goal. State what you intend to accomplish and by when. You may want a few goals for the year, and some for one or two-month intervals. A good list should include some short-term and some long-term goals. <br />
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Tip 2. State goals as declarations of intention, not items on a wish list. SMART stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Timely. <br />
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Tip 3. Share your goals with someone who cares if you reach them. Sharing your intentions with your best friends, your parents, or your teacher will help positive success. <br />
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Tip 4. Be specific. Sometimes a more general goal can become the long-term aim, and you can identify some more specific goals to take you there. <br />
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Tip 5. Develop several goals. A list of five to seven items gives you several things to work on over a period of time. <br />
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Tip 6. Review and revise your list. Experiment with different ways of stating your goals. Goal setting improves with practice, so play around with it. <br />
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Tip 8. Timely means setting deadlines. You must include one, otherwise your aim isn’t measurable. But your deadlines must be realistic, or the task isn’t achievable. T must be M, & R, & S without these your aim can’t be top-priority. <br />
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This is the first tool I do with a client and helps you get a snapshot of “where you're at” <br />
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This also gives you and I, an idea of what areas of your life we should focus on over the next few months.<br />
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How would you feel if you could significantly move forward in these 3 areas? <br />
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We all get judged rightly or wrongly at some point in our lives, but it's how you judge yourself that mater's to me, I always ask myself if I could do better. I never prejudge others as there is always something behind their actions and behaviours. I forgive them if they hurt me, but it's only them that can forgive themselves for their actions.<br /><br /><a href="https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=12654178">If you need help, book a life coaching session with Derek!</a> <a href="https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=12654178&notembedded=1">Click here to set it up!</a><br /><br />I have been judged many times for what I do sometimes unfairly, but I would never judge others with out getting all the facts, then I would make an informed judgement on the information at that time. We can make errors, as long as we are honest with others and ourselves that's what mater. If we were all perfect life would be boring and we wouldn't learn, not understanding is not knowing, so learn and get to know someone before you judge them!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I was lucky enough a few years ago to be involved in a major oil service companies, lessons learned data base where, the workers and managers, clients etc, all came together to judge a project, they judged themselves rather than anyone else and captured the lesson's they learned, so they could pass them on. Funny thing was most of the time, new project managers didn't read them before they started their own project, This lead me to giving a workshop highlighting missed lessons from projects years back, and it raised a few eye brows as how could someone who wasn't an engineer highlight this, very simple.<b> I took time to read the notes!</b></div>
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This made me look at the lessons we learn in life and how we can implement them in the present moment. very often we get that funny feeling in our guts we have missed something or we should of done something, In today's busy lives we need to take that time out to judge ourselves on what we are doing, does it fit with your core values? Can we do it better? Who can I get to check my work? Am I confident in asking for a review? Has this been done before? Where will I get the information? and so on.</div>
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When we have a dream and want to turn it into a goal, We can look at the lessons learned from others, read do research and ask others, its a sign of strength not weakness. Learn from others failures as well as successes.</div>
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;">it may be too
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;">Not everyone
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;">Be true to
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;">with the time
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;">they are not
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<b><i><span style="font-size: 10.0pt;">for this is
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<b><i>This checklist will help you decide if you are a
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Now that you have judged yourself not as a failure. One of the tools I give my clients is.</div>
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the future, describing what your life is like now that you have achieved your
goals successfully. Do it for each goal address it to yourself with the date
that it is to be achieved. Tell yourself in detail how your life looks, feels,
and who you have become as a person at the time of achieving your goal.
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This is a great tool to have fun with and it helps you see, that you can achieve in your mind and heart give it ago. If you need help have a look at having a Life coaching session.</div>
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<br /><b>What Can Life Coaching Do For You?</b><br /><br />Life Coaching is all about making you happier by changing the things that make you sad. I will coach you by phone/Skype/MSN/ or face to face usually once a week, and for a 45 minute session. Some people have one session; some have a course of 4 or 10. Others stay with me for many months, lowering frequency as their goals and progress become clearer. I also do a Life coaching workshop where we go over the process over a whole day or four 2 hour sessions.<br /><br /> <a href="https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=12654178">If you need help, book a life coaching session with Derek!</a> <a href="https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=12654178&notembedded=1">Click here to set it up!</a><br /><br />During our sessions, I will work with you to turn problems statements into solution statements, to develop plans to move you towards your goals, and to maintain your focus and positive motivation to get you there. My professional coaching training allows me to move quickly to route out the key issues we should work on, and to find out those things about you which can untie the knots, and free you up to make the progress you've dreamed of for so long.</div>
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You'll always be in control, but I'll always be looking out for your best interests, bringing my professional skills and personal passion to bear in moving your life to the one you really deserve. I will ask you to sign your own contract to yourself where you turn your goals in to projects and you will have already started the process for change in your life.</div>
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<b>“If one advances confidently in the direction of one’s dreams, and endeavour’s to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” Thoreau</b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Rejection comes in many forms and it can be tempting to wallow in self-pity and despair when we have been rejected. Fortunately, there are things we can do that can help us handle rejection with dignity and purpose. Everyone experiences rejection – it is what we do in response that determines how we feel about ourselves. Rejection is scary, because it reminds us that we cannot control people and circumstances. Here are a few ideas of things we can do to overcome the</span> rejection blues.<br />
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<b>Be Aware of Your Emotions</b><br />
Rejection is a form of loss, creating the sense of losing something we thought we had. Being rejected can feel like an outright violation of our expectations, which is why many of us feel offended when we are rejected. When the rejection is very painful or unexpected, it can be scary, making us feel as though the world we live in is unsafe and malevolent. When things do not go the way we expect, we often feel devastated and powerless, especially if we are very attached to a particular outcome.<br />
We can acknowledge our loss, reminding ourselves that our feelings are never unacceptable or wrong, but they are also not entirely true. No matter how extreme or violent our feelings might seem, though, it is important to give ourselves the opportunity to experience them. Anger, sadness and disappointment are all natural responses when dealing with rejection. We can allow for our feelings, whatever they are, without holding onto them. We can let them come, and let them go.<br />
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<b>Practice Acceptance</b><br />
When rejection occurs, one of the ways many of us automatically respond is with denial. We may tell ourselves that this is not happening or that this is all a mistake that will soon be corrected. Denial is a mechanism of self-defence. We deny that something unpleasant is happening because the reality is too painful. We can gently correct ourselves by saying, "This is happening, and it will be okay. This does not mean that I am a bad person or that I have done something wrong."<br />
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Another common impulse when dealing with rejection is to isolate and to cut ourselves off from support. This is another way that we unconsciously try to protect ourselves from more pain. Many of us equate relationships (revealing ourselves to others in work, love, family and friendships) with the disappointment that sometimes occurs in those relationships. <br />
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<b>Take Action and Get Moving</b><br />
It does not matter what we do, only that we take action and get moving. We can do dishes, pay bills, organise or finish up that work report we have been neglecting. Purposeful movement clears the mind of the stagnant energy and negative emotions that hang around when we are dealing with rejection. This is a perfect time to do something we have been putting off.<br />
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We are probably thinking, "What’s the use? I will still be miserable, and it will not change the fact that I have been dumped/passed over for that promotion/turned down by my number-one choice for college or school." We can choose to think about it differently. We can be heartbroken in a messy living room that makes us feel even more miserable, or we can take constructive action that will likely lift our spirits and self-esteem.<br />
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Action has a wonderful way of breeding self-confidence and feelings of empowerment. You will feel less like a victim of your circumstances when you take action in an area you can actually control. Though it may sound like torture to suggest cleaning a closet after what feels like the most painful breakup in history the sooner we get moving, the better we will feel.<br />
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It is okay to resist for a while. As soon as we are ready, we can give it a try. If it still seems like an insurmountable, useless task, we can make a deal with ourselves to try it out for fifteen minutes. If we want to stop after 15 minutes, we can stop. But we usually find that the momentum of positive, productive energy created in just those 15 minutes is sufficient to make us want to keep going.<br />
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<b>Be Kind to Yourself</b> <br />
One of the best times to do something nice for ourselves is when we are dealing with rejection. This serves a dual purpose: we get to do something enjoyable, and in so doing, we also prove to ourselves that we are worth the effort and attention. We can buy ourselves a special gift or get a massage, manicure and pedicure. We can set aside a day in the coming week to do whatever we want to do, whether that means browsing in a bookstore all afternoon sipping coffee, or losing ourselves in an art project. Planning ahead for "me" time brings with it the gift of something to look forward to, which makes difficult situations infinitely more bearable. <br />
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What it does mean, however, is that our thoughts colour our experiences. We have the power to use past success as evidence that future success is possible and, indeed, probable.<br />
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Rejection is a bitter pill to swallow. But its purpose is not gratuitous pain. If we have relationships with other people and if we regularly take risks, rejection is inevitable. Like any experience, rejection teaches a valuable lesson that we simply cannot learn any other way. We can always choose to see that value, although it may be difficult at first. Dealing with rejection in one area of life can teach us to deal more gracefully with our next experience of rejection in a completely different area. Lessons like these build on themselves. We can use our past experiences of rejection to make our future experiences less painful.<br />
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Whether it is a pet, a relative or a stranger, this strategy is particularly effective for coping with rejection. Focusing on someone else’s needs for a time reminds us that we are not the centre of the universe, and that our disappointments are not as devastating and all-encompassing as we make them out to be. Perhaps someone we love is ill, confined to home or hospital bed. We can ask if there is anything we might help that person with, being grateful for our health and our ability to offer help.<br />
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Feeling useful is a fail safe cure for self-pity. We can call a friend and ask how she is, without mentioning or complaining about our circumstances. Take the dog for an extra-long walk, or spend time snuggling with the cat – such small, loving actions centre us, bring us great comfort and remind us that we matter to other beings.<br />
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Rejection can make us feel as though we are failing, and can even lead us to falsely assume that not only have we failed, we are complete failures. Reminding ourselves of specific successes is a great way to remember our assets and accomplishments during a time when we are tempted to focus only on the negative. By focusing on the positive, we give it power in our minds, in our actions and ultimately in our circumstances. This does not mean that thinking positively will ensure that we never experience disappointment.<br />
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These are shown in Figure 4.<br /><br />Figure 4<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqgUtdNc_zhSNt6Dr3Fgdgdn1osKPsaI_1tRLLJZUuzVEM8PIMOFkJbWUMlsMosIsFSc4ePMcV6w2t8isVrMIYkRiYkL6IWYo6SB7kmWDlQzF-G1ii8h2BolvUksgiUNNY4Ym8VDq4vfI/s1600/fig4mind.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" height="502" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhqgUtdNc_zhSNt6Dr3Fgdgdn1osKPsaI_1tRLLJZUuzVEM8PIMOFkJbWUMlsMosIsFSc4ePMcV6w2t8isVrMIYkRiYkL6IWYo6SB7kmWDlQzF-G1ii8h2BolvUksgiUNNY4Ym8VDq4vfI/s640/fig4mind.jpg" width="640" /></a><br /><img src="file:///C:/Users/dmcgi/AppData/Local/Temp/msohtmlclip1/01/clip_image005.jpg" /><br /><br />5. As you come across new information, link it in to the Mind Map appropriately.<br /><br />A complete Mind Map may have main topic lines radiating in all directions from the canter. Sub-topics and facts will branch off these, like branches and twigs from the trunk of a tree. You don't need to worry about the structure you produce, as this will evolve of its own accord.<br /><br /><a href="https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=12654178">If you need help, book a life coaching session with Derek!</a> <a href="https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=12654178&notembedded=1">Click here to set it up!</a><br /><br />Using Mind Maps Effectively<br /><br />Once you understand how to take notes in Mind Map format, you can develop your own conventions for taking them further. The following suggestions can help you draw impactful Mind Maps:<br /><br />Use Single Words or Simple Phrases<br /><br />Many words in normal writing are padding, as they ensure that facts are conveyed in the correct context, and in a format that is pleasant to read. <br /><br />In Mind Maps, single strong words and short, meaningful phrases can convey the same meaning more potently. Excess words just clutter the Mind Map.<br /><br />Print Words<br /><br />Joined up or indistinct writing is more difficult to read.<br /><br />Use Colour to Separate Different Ideas<br /><br />This will help you to separate ideas where necessary. It also helps you to visualise the Mind Map for recall. Colour can help to show the organisation of the subject.<br /><br />Use Symbols and Images<br /><br />Pictures can help you to remember information more effectively than words, so, where a symbol or picture means something to you, use it. (You can use photo libraries like iStockPhoto to source images inexpensively.)<br /><br />Using Cross-Linkages<br /><br />Information in one part of a Mind Map may relate to another part. Here you can draw lines to show the cross-linkages. This helps you to see how one part of the subject affects another.<br /><br />Visual Example <br /><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixR4UU0c4PhqLlZxNNrY9DVPcuS9UtJYUQEuyKT87V2R1n_zI78OC7MX8Bjwh-8m89AGpULoL_mxqmyhl4v8JQptCeGgZyArMf15b9jIiT9jIo2dOMtCSCcNgXAgVRq_6yNrEL-XbeQ18/s1600/mindtime.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" height="498" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixR4UU0c4PhqLlZxNNrY9DVPcuS9UtJYUQEuyKT87V2R1n_zI78OC7MX8Bjwh-8m89AGpULoL_mxqmyhl4v8JQptCeGgZyArMf15b9jIiT9jIo2dOMtCSCcNgXAgVRq_6yNrEL-XbeQ18/s640/mindtime.jpg" width="640" /></a><br /><br /><img src="file:///C:/Users/dmcgi/AppData/Local/Temp/msohtmlclip1/01/clip_image007.jpg" /><br /><br /> <a href="https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=12654178">If you need help, book a life coaching session with Derek!</a> <a href="https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=12654178&notembedded=1">Click here to set it up!</a><br /><br />Key Points<br /><br />Mind Mapping is an extremely effective method of taking notes. Not only do Mind Maps show facts, they also show the overall structure of a subject and the relative importance of individual parts of it. They help you to associate ideas, think creatively, and make connections that you might not otherwise make.<br /><br />Mind Maps are useful for summarising information, for consolidating large chunks of information, for making connections, and for creative problem solving. To use Mind Maps effectively, make sure you print your words, use different colours to add visual impact, and incorporate symbols and images to further spur creative thinking. If you do any form of research or note taking, try experimenting with Mind Maps. You'll love using them!<br /><br />Mind map to summarise mind maps<br /><br /> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh89UAT0IALX-PnjOCLsvVGXK4Z2ybyWqWwl9auaC39I6SSmg-oFRdTGzijhyphenhyphenHq15HfY24HFpKi0jcn3tctiX1KegER-MNWXptwtlsheF8heNgGIV-s1M9ZFE6QIjapjMhSa3zy1eBhFqg/s1600/mindmaps.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" height="404" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh89UAT0IALX-PnjOCLsvVGXK4Z2ybyWqWwl9auaC39I6SSmg-oFRdTGzijhyphenhyphenHq15HfY24HFpKi0jcn3tctiX1KegER-MNWXptwtlsheF8heNgGIV-s1M9ZFE6QIjapjMhSa3zy1eBhFqg/s640/mindmaps.jpg" width="640" /></a><br /><br /><img src="file:///C:/Users/dmcgi/AppData/Local/Temp/msohtmlclip1/01/clip_image009.jpg" /><br /><br /> <br /><br />Give it a go I personally used mind mapping to design a Business continuity plan for a mayor oil service company in Aberdeen and found it a great tool for such a big project.</div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: large;">Once you have re winded and you are now in a calmer and more relaxed state of mind, where you may have found some solutions, ideas and possible ways forward, look at what else you can do to assist yourself whether its going for a chill out walk, bath, nice meal, time with friends and family.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: large;">We have all had an experience where we are constipated all banged up and we are sitting in the toilet ready to get rid of the blockage and we strain and strain then nothing happens as we are trying to push it all out. When we sit back relax,read a paper, play with the phone then all of a sudden the blockage just drops out. And we feel great again, we flush away all the problem with ease.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: large;">The secret is to relax, look at mediation and mindfulness.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: large;">We are now ready to re engage in life again in the present, with all the tools and ideas to move forward and overcome your present challenges.</span><br />
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<b>WHAT IS GROUNDING/ EARTHING? </b><br />
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These notes are only guidelines to aid you on your own Spiritual Path, and as with all spiritual work, it is often about finding your own Truth. If you disagree or feel uncomfortable with anything that is suggested here by all means find an alternative Truth that is acceptable to you. <br />
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Grounding/Earthen is all about the awareness that we are still in a physical body as well as endeavouring to become spiritual workers and beings. <br />
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<b>Why is it so important that we ground/ earth ourselves?</b> <br />
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Below you will find a few ways in which being grounded can make such a difference to our everyday life: <br />
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• Brings life into matter and to be able to bring our healing abilities into the physical. <br />
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• Increases balance and stability in our physical and emotional state. <br />
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• Helps bring acceptance that we are here to fulfil a purpose. <br />
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• Brings strength. <br />
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• Helps in creating a bridge between Spirit and matter. <br />
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• Provides an outlet making the release [of energy] easier. <br />
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• Allows the attainment of higher Spiritual levels. <br />
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As a healer it is very important to keep your patient grounded. <br />
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<b>How will I know if I am grounded or ungrounded? </b><br />
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Below is a list of some of the more common symptoms of being ungrounded. Usually each individual will encounter the same one or two symptoms each time they are ungrounded. · <br />
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• Dizziness <br />
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• Daydreaming <br />
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• A feeling of being "spaced out". <br />
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• Feeling sick. <br />
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• Heart palpitations. <br />
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• Eyes flickering. <br />
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• Weight gain. <br />
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• Clumsiness. <br />
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• Static shocks. <br />
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• Falling asleep when meditating. <br />
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• Noise and light sensitive. <br />
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• Forgetful. <br />
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• Having brilliant ideas that never happen <br />
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• Arguing and unable to get your point across. <br />
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<b>[ Please note that many of these symptoms can also be linked to the physical] </b><br />
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<b>ESCAPE ROUTES </b><br />
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This information is for you to use if you are meditating, either on your own, or within a group. It is important to understand, that when you are working in the Alpha state, your defences are down in order to receive information from the Higher Self, your Guardian Angel, Guides or helpers. <br />
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Whilst we are working in this level, we need an escape route that we can use, if there is an emergency such as a fire, or flood, or anything electrical. The sound of a telephone, or a doorbell, or any sudden loud noise, can cause an immense problem within the solar plexus area, so you will need to know how to deal with any eventuality that may arise. This, of course, is the reason that many mediums will tell you that it is not really a good thing to meditate on your own, unless you are strong enough to deal with shock during meditation. <br />
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Also there is the possibility of slipping into trance, and being unable to bring yourself back, but rest assured on this one, that as long as you give yourself instructions to come back after a specified length of time, you will fall into a natural sleep, and awaken normally. <br />
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Therefore, I will endeavour to give you some examples of how you can help yourself, so that you will not have to experience this painful discomfort. Obviously, you will have to experiment, to find out which escape route that can be used to your best advantage, or, if none of the following can help, please try an idea, or something of your own that you can feel comfortable with. <br />
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1. Just look around behind you, for the lift door, get in and go straight up, knowing that this is a special lift, that heals and awakens you as you go up to the surface. Then be ready immediately to deal with the emergency. <br />
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2. Take hold of your Guardian Angel's hand, and just fly up to the surface. Knowing and trusting that they will do all that is necessary to protect you, and be ready to face whatever emergency is to hand. <br />
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3. Bring your bubble of protection around you, and hold it tight, as you lift yourself to the surface, keeping your protection around you, until you become aware, and can deal with whatever is going on. <br />
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4. Trust in the Divine Power to protect you, and just float lo the surface, ready to attend to whatever needs to be done. [ this is the one! use for myself] </div>
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When I have done a lot of private sessions I find going for a walk and connecting to nature can help to ground myself. the video I made in Skye when in Portree is a good example of this, I also find music can help me to unwind and feel more grounded.</div>
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N.B. The best colour to use you choose, is the colour yellow. This is colour brings the energy that your solar plexus needs in times of emergency, otherwise its resources can be depleted, and you can find yourself tired for a day or two afterwards. <br />
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<b><br />WHAT IS PROTECTION?</b><br />
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These notes are only guidelines to aid you on your own spiritual path, and as with all spiritual work it is often about finding your own Truth. If you disagree or feel uncomfortable with anything that is suggested here, by all means find an alternative Truth, that is acceptable to you.<br />
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<b>What is Protection, and why do we need it?</b><br />
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As Human Beings we are all placed on this earth in a physical body. Many of us may choose to do the work of Spirit and therefore become aware that there is much more to life than just a physical body.<br />
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I am sure that we all have been aware of standing in a queue and feeling uncomfortable as someone steps into our space.<br />
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This is them (Sprit) invading our aura [energy field], and if our energy field is unprotected we will pick up on any energy that they may be giving out.<br />
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This energy can be both positive and negative, and it is important for us to learn that we can pick up and take on board this energy, especially as we start to develop our intuition and spiritual awareness.<br />
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We become more sensitive to the energies that constantly surround us, and then it becomes important to know what we should do, to avoid becoming susceptible to any negativity that we may encounter. The more spiritually aware and intuitive we are, the more sensitive we become, to all the energies around us. <br />
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We especially need to be aware, of protecting our energy fields when dealing with other people, as a healer/medium or clairvoyant for example. We need to make sure that we don't take on any unnecessary emotions/problems that the client may have brought with them.<br />
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<b><br />How will I know if I am protected or not?</b><br />
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Being unprotected normally manifests itself within the emotional and spiritual bodies. Below is a list of some symptoms you may feel if your energy field is unprotected.<br />
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• On a physical level you can feel pain in the back of your neck, solar plexus [pit of stomach], or wrists.<br />
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You can build up and protect your own energy in a number of ways. Here are a few easy examples to follow.<br />
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• Keep fit and well.<br />
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• Wear protective colours -for example gold, silver, violet or blue.<br />
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• Wear or carry crystals with a protective quality - for example Amethyst, Lapis Lazuli, Sugilite, Laramar, Gold Tiger's eye, and Hawks Eye [blue Tigers Eye] Black tourmaline, Hematite for psychic protection.<br />
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Wear or use protective symbols -for example The Egyptian Ankh, Rune symbol, Star of David [six-pointed star], Circle, Egg, Pentagram [five-pointed star], especially for Wiccans/Pagans, Pyramid or Cross, Symbols are very personal things, so only wear or carry what feels right for you and what you are comfortable with.<br />
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Visualisation - for example, a good exercise is to imagine you are sitting in an egg of light. The base of the egg is sitting just below the floor [so you are grounded] and you are surrounded in your egg by a lovely protective colour [gold, silver, violet or blue]. You can make sure that your egg-shell is solid so that no negative energy can penetrate it. Any negative thoughts/emotions that you may have will not get out, and no negative thoughts/emotions from others will be allowed in. In turn each negative energy or thought pattern will hit the egg-shell and slide down it into the ground to be transmuted into positive energy.<br />
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As I mention in my video I use crystals and one of the best ones I feel is Black Tourmaline.<br />
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Black Tourmaline crystal is a powerful stone for protection against negative energy of all kinds, as well as being a strong spiritual grounding stone.<br />
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This is one of the most popular crystals to be used for metaphysical purposes. Many people, and I am amongst this group, believe this is the best protection stone that you can use.<br />
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Also known as Schorl, it encourages positive attitudes, good luck and happiness, regardless of the circumstances that you find yourself in.<br />
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They are wonderful aids to both the professional healer and the average person who wants a stone that will be a positive force for good in your life, as it creates a positive attitude and mindset.</div>
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Lets face it, life can be challenging at times, and its how we deal with the difficult times that matter, we need to find ways of coping with the challenges, this is what I call coping mechanisms.<br />
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Life is like a cup of tea, I love to make myself a cup to relax with, it doesn't matter what cup I make it in, or how I make it, what type of tea bag or flavour, it's how I make it, sometimes I will try a different tea, it still doesn't matter what cup I put it in. Life is not the cup and it doesn't matter how big or small the cup is, it's still the same tea. Like life it doesn't matter what you have, it's your life so enjoy it. Make that tea the best tea you can have!</div>
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Over the years I have had many hard situations to deal with, loss of loved ones, loss of jobs, rejection, the list can go on and on. the real success is when we overcome them, by using positive coping mechanisms.<br />
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Now look at better ways of coping. and do that again until your happy you have better solution's.</div>
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Taken from <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coping_(psychology)#Positive_techniques_.28adaptive_or_constructive_coping.29">Wikipedia.</a><br />
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In <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychology" target="_blank">psychology</a>, coping means to invest own conscious effort, to solve personal and interpersonal problems, in order to try to master, <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Minimisation_(psychology)" target="_blank">minimize</a> or tolerate <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stress_(psychological)" target="_blank">stress</a> and <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_conflict" target="_blank">conflict</a>.<a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coping_(psychology)#cite_note-Weiten-1">[1]</a><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coping_(psychology)#cite_note-2">[2]</a><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coping_(psychology)#cite_note-3">[3]</a><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coping_(psychology)#cite_note-4">[4]</a><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coping_(psychology)#cite_note-5">[5]</a><br />
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The psychological coping mechanisms are commonly termed coping strategies or coping skills. The term coping generally refers to adaptive (constructive) coping strategies. That is strategies which reduce stress. In contrast, other coping strategies may be coined as maladaptive, if they increase stress. Maladaptive coping is therefore also described, when looking at the outcome, as non-coping. Furthermore, the term coping generally refers to reactive coping, i.e. the coping response which follows the <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stressor" target="_blank">stressor</a>. This differs from proactive coping, in which a coping response aims to neutralize a future stressor. Subconscious or non-conscious strategies (e.g. <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Defence_mechanism" target="_blank">defense mechanisms</a>) are generally excluded from the area of coping.<br />
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The effectiveness of the coping effort depends on: the type of stress, the individual and the circumstances. Coping responses are partly controlled by <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Personality" target="_blank">personality</a> (habitual traits), but also partly by the <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_environment" target="_blank">social environment</a>, particularly the nature of the stressful environment.<br />
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We often suffer from anxiety when we are trying to cope and I found these tips a great help from the <a href="http://www.realsimple.com/health/mind-mood/emotional-health/ten-ways-to-cope-with-anxiety" target="_blank">Real Simple website</a></div>
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You’ve been in bed for an hour now and you still can’t get to sleep. Maybe you’re thinking about your job or your 401(k) or health insurance. Perhaps some problem with your kids has your mind spinning on its late-night hamster wheel of worry. Whatever the issue, you can’t get it out of your head, so you try to solve it then and there. Before you know it, another hour has passed. Now you start fretting about the fact that you can’t get to sleep. “I’ll be a wreck tomorrow,” you tell yourself. “I’ve got to sleep now.” Doesn’t do the trick though, does it? <br />
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We’ve all been there. But the good news is, there is something you can do to help―something more effective than the usual advice to “be positive” or just “stop thinking so much.” The latest research on anxiety suggests innovative, even odd, techniques for coping successfully with recurrent worries. I’ve seen these work for hundreds of patients. In fact, I’ve found that most people can get a grip on things if they take a few minutes to develop a different relationship with their thoughts and feelings. Here are 10 approaches to try. <br />
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1. Repeat your worry until you’re bored silly. If you had a fear of elevators, you’d get rid of it if you rode in one a thousand times in a row. At first, you would be very anxious, then less so, and eventually it would have no effect (except to make you sick of riding in an elevator). So take the troublesome thought that’s nagging at you and say it over and over, silently, slowly, for 20 minutes. It’s hard to keep your mind on a worry if you repeat it that many times. I call this the “boredom cure” for obvious reasons, but it sure beats feeling overwhelmed by anxiety. <br />
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2. Make it worse. When you try too hard to control your anxieties, you only heighten them. Instead, exaggerate them and see what happens. For instance, if you fear that your mind will go blank during a presentation, fake it intentionally in the middle of your next one. Say, “Gee, what was I just saying?” Notice how this makes no difference. It’s nothing to worry about, right? I did this at a lecture once and no one raised an eyebrow. (Perhaps they weren’t listening anyway!) <br />
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3. Don’t fight the craziness. You may occasionally have thoughts that lead you to think you’ll do something terrible (“I’m attracted to him. Does that mean I’ll have an affair?”) or that you’re going insane (a client of mine who is an attorney kept imagining herself screaming in court). Remember―our minds are creative. Little synapses are firing away at random, and every now and then a “crazy” thought jumps out. Everyone has them. Instead of judging yours, describe it to yourself like it’s a curious object on a shelf and move on. <br />
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4. Recognise false alarms. That fear of your house burning down because you left the iron on has never come true. That rapid heart beat doesn’t mean you’re having a heart attack; it’s your body’s natural response to arousal. Many thoughts and sensations that we interpret as cues for concern―even panic―are just background noise. Think of each of them as a fire engine going to another place. You’ve noticed them; now let them pass by.<br />
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5. Turn your anxiety into a movie. You can let go of a worry by disconnecting yourself from it. One way is to imagine that your anxious thoughts are a show. Maybe they’re a little guy in a funny hat who tap dances and sings out your worry while you sit in the audience, eating popcorn, a calm observer.<br />
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6. Set aside worry time. All too often we take a “Crackberry” approach to our worries: They show up unannounced, like constantly dinging e-mails, and we stop everything to address them―even if we should be doing something else. But what if you don’t respond right away? Try setting aside 20 minutes every day―let’s say at 4:30 p.m.―just for your worries. If you are fretting at 10 a.m., jot down the reason and resolve to think it through later. By the time 4:30 comes around, many of your troubles won’t even matter anymore. And you will have spent almost an entire day anxiety-free. <br />
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7. Take your hand off the horn. You constantly check the weather before a big outdoor event. You replay that clumsy comment you made, wishing you could take it back. And, yes, you honk your horn in traffic. When you desperately try to take command of things that can’t be controlled, you’re like the swimmer who panics and slaps at the water, screaming. It gets you nowhere. Instead, imagine that you are floating along on the water with your arms spread out, looking up to the sky. It’s a paradox, but when you surrender to the moment, you actually feel far more in control. <br />
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8. Breathe it out. You may notice that when your body is tense, you hold your breath. Focusing on breathing is a common but effective technique for calming the nerves. Where is your breath now, and where is your mind? Bring them together. Listen to the movement of your breath. Does your mind wander somewhere else? Call it back. Concentrate only on breathing in and out, beginning and ending, breath to breath, moment to moment. <br />
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9. Make peace with time. When you’re a worrier, everything can feel like an emergency. But notice this about all your anxious arousal: It’s temporary. Every feeling of panic comes to an end, every concern eventually wears itself out, every so-called emergency seems to evaporate. Ask yourself, “How will I feel about this in a week or a month?” This one, too, really will pass. <br />
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10. Don’t let your worries stop you from living your life. Many of them will turn out to be false, and the consequences of your anxiety―less sleep, a rapid pulse, a little embarrassment―are just inconveniences when it comes down to it. What can you still do even if you feel anxious? Almost anything.<br />
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I found these suggestions of coping mechanisms. from <a href="http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages/tip-99-coping-skills.aspx">your life your voice website</a><br />
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Exercise (running, walking, etc.).<br />
Put on fake tattoos.<br />
Write (poetry, stories, journal).<br />
Scribble/doodle on paper.<br />
Be with other people.<br />
Watch a favorite TV show.<br />
Post on web boards, and answer others' posts.<br />
Go see a movie.<br />
Do a wordsearch or crossword.<br />
Do schoolwork.<br />
Play a musical instrument.<br />
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Paint your nails, do your make-up or hair.<br />
Sing.<br />
Study the sky.<br />
Punch a punching bag.<br />
Cover yourself with Band-Aids where you want to cut.<br />
Let yourself cry.<br />
Take a nap (only if you are tired).<br />
Take a hot shower or relaxing bath.<br />
Play with a pet.<br />
Go shopping.<br />
Clean something.<br />
Knit or sew.<br />
Read a good book.<br />
Listen to music.<br />
Try some aromatherapy (candle, lotion, room spray).<br />
Meditate.<br />
Go somewhere very public.<br />
Bake cookies.<br />
Alphabetise your CDs/DVDs/books.<br />
Paint or draw.<br />
Rip paper into itty-bitty pieces.<br />
Shoot hoops, kick a ball.<br />
Write a letter or send an email.<br />
Plan your dream room (colours/furniture).<br />
Hug a pillow or stuffed animal.<br />
Hyper-focus on something like a rock, hand, etc.<br />
Dance.<br />
Make hot chocolate, milkshake or smoothie.<br />
Play with modelling clay or Play-Dough.<br />
Build a pillow fort.<br />
Go for a nice, long drive.<br />
Complete something you've been putting off.<br />
Draw on yourself with a marker.<br />
Take up a new hobby.<br />
Look up recipes, cook a meal.<br />
Look at pretty things, like flowers or art.<br />
Create or build something.<br />
Pray.<br />
Make a list of blessings in your life.<br />
Read the Bible.<br />
Go to a friend's house.<br />
Jump on a trampoline.<br />
Watch an old, happy movie.<br />
Contact a hotline/ your therapist.<br />
Talk to someone close to you.<br />
Ride a bicycle.<br />
Feed the ducks, birds, or squirrels.<br />
Colour with Crayons.<br />
Memorise a poem, play, or song.<br />
Stretch.<br />
Search for ridiculous things on the internet.<br />
“Shop” on-line (without buying anything).<br />
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Colour-coordinate your wardrobe.<br />
Watch fish.<br />
Make a CD/playlist of your favourite songs.<br />
Play the “15 minute game.” (Avoid something for 15 minutes, when time is up start again.)<br />
Plan your wedding/prom/other event.<br />
Plant some seeds.<br />
Hunt for your perfect home or car on-line.<br />
Try to make as many words out of your full name as possible.<br />
Sort through your photographs.<br />
Play with a balloon.<br />
Give yourself a facial.<br />
Find yourself some toys and play.<br />
Start collecting something.<br />
Play video/computer games.<br />
Clean up trash at your local park.<br />
Perform a random act of kindness for someone.<br />
Text or call an old friend.<br />
Write yourself an "I love you because…" letter.<br />
Look up new words and use them.<br />
Rearrange furniture.<br />
Write a letter to someone that you may never send.<br />
Smile at least five people.<br />
Play with little kids.<br />
Go for a walk (with or without a friend).<br />
Put a puzzle together.<br />
Clean your room /closet.<br />
Try to do handstands, cartwheels, or back bends.<br />
Yoga.<br />
Teach your pet a new trick.<br />
Learn a new language.<br />
Move EVERYTHING in your room to a new spot.<br />
Get together with friends and play Frisbee, soccer or basketball.<br />
Hug a friend or family member.<br />
Search on-line for new songs/artists.<br />
Make a list of goals for the week/month/year/5 years.<br />
Face paint.<br />
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When I was working on the Psychic phone lines one of the most common questions was what will my next partner be like? what do you see? The fact that as a psychic we only see possibilities and options there is never any guarantees, this made me question why so many people fail to learn from past mistakes? What could I do to encourage success in relationships?</div>
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The first thing we need to accept is you need to work at it, don't give up, people change over time, it a constant change, learning and when it works, its beautiful to see and feel.</div>
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Your time is very important and as we get older we value our time more!</div>
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My time has a value and worth.</div>
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My time is given wisely.</div>
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My time goes to quick I can't catch it.</div>
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My time is wasted by others.</div>
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My time has been lost.</div>
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But your time has come and your time is now.</div>
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Put down the phone and all the other time consuming devices. </div>
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As my time is mine to use not to waste on others who don't value my time. </div>
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Spend time with yourself and listen to yourself, make time today</div>
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If your seeing people who waste your time then its time to move on, those who say yes, we will do this and that and don't, are not worth your time and energy.</div>
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Not every woman or man you meet will become a lover, but they could become great friends, who have friends also, that could become a lover.</div>
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If you keep meeting the same type of partners and it doesn't work out try going or doing something different, you wont meet your dream partner in your local pub if you been with all the available women/ men and find there not for you.</div>
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I was also told by a wise woman," rejection is gods protection." so don't take it to heart.</div>
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what type of person do I want to meet?</div>
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where do these people go?</div>
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Am I confident at asking people out? If not how can I gain confidence?</div>
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use positive loving affirmations to gain confidence.</div>
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I have happy relationships. Positive Daily Affirmations for Relationships</div>
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Examples of positive daily affirmations for relationships include:</div>
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1. I am a confident and positive person, and confident and positive persons gravitate toward me every day.</div>
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2. I know who I obviously am and what I like in personal relationships.</div>
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3. I am attracting powerfully positive and healthy people into my life.</div>
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4. I am caring, smart, supportive, loyal, and fun to be with.</div>
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5. I feel completely at ease and comfortable with all types of people.</div>
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6. I am winning in all my relationships.</div>
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7. I am a positive and valuable contributor to my relationships.</div>
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8. I possess complete ability to articulate my thoughts and feelings to everyone, and I express myself wisely.</div>
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I have a blog on making your own affirmations just look back thought the blogs.</div>
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I found this tool a few years back and its a useful tool to help in seeking that dream partner.</div>
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<i><span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;">This tool helps you imagine the qualities of your dream partner. By making a quiz about your dream partner you can create a <span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">clear picture </span>of them in their mind. </span></i><span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;"></span></div>
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<i><span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;">When you have finished, you will have a <span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">list of the qualities </span>you would like in a future partner. </span></i></div>
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<i><span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="font-size: 10pt;">Then, when you meet them – you will be able to </span><span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;"><span style="font-size: 13.3333px;">recognise</span><span style="font-size: 10pt;"> </span></span><span style="font-size: 10pt;">them straight away! </span></span></i><span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;"></span></div>
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<u><span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;">Part I: Questions To Discover Your Future Partners Qualities </span></u></div>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;">What qualities do you want your potential partner to demonstrate? </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;">Think about your answers to these questions to get some ideas: </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;">"How does he make me feel <span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">special</span>?" </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;">"What does she do when I'm <span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">sick </span>in bed?" </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;">"How does he show <span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">affection</span>?" </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;">"How does he <span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">treat </span>me in company when we go out?" </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;">"How does he make me <span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">laugh</span>?" </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;">"Her most important <span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">quality </span>is …” </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;">"The <span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">best </span>thing about him is …” </span></div>
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<i><span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;">Qualities</span></i><span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;">: He is <span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">respectful</span>, <span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">attentive </span>and <span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">kind</span>. </span></div>
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<i><span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;">Behavior</span></i><span style="font-family: "tahoma"; font-size: 10pt;">: He is <span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">attentive </span>and <span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">considerate </span>to me, and <span style="mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">kind </span>to the waitress.” </span></div>
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But not only do I use this form of questioning for my business clients, I now use it for my personal clients as we all have values and passions, we need to question ourselves at times and find out if we are following our core values, and if we feel we are not, What actions can we take to get back on track?</div>
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My first experience of living by core values came when I was working at PSN and oil service company in Aberdeen who went though a management buy out from Halliburton.</div>
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The then CO Robert (Bob) Keiller who lead the management buyout strongly believed in their core values which are divided into 7 core values, these were adopted by<a href="http://www.woodgroup-psn.com/our-values/introduction.aspx" target="_blank"> Woodgroup</a> who bought the successful company after a few years of great growth. Bob lived and breathed these values and inspired his staff and collages to live by them also.</div>
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if you look at <a href="http://www.woodgroup-psn.com/our-values/introduction.aspx" target="_blank">Woodgroups website</a> you will see this statement:</div>
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<span style="font-family: "times new roman"; font-size: small;"><b><i>Core values are at the heart of our business because they define who we are, how we work, what we believe in and what we stand for. Our core values set out how we act and how we expect to be treated as part of Wood Group and provide a sound basis to make decisions</i></b>.</span></div>
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<b>Safety & Assurance</b> <br />
Safety & Assurance is our top priority because lives depend on it. We passionately care about the safety of our people and behave as safety leaders. We are committed to preventing injuries and ill health to our people and those we work with so everyone returns home safely. We provide our people with the training, knowledge and tools to work safely and prevent accidents. We are focused on assuring the safety of everything we design, construct, operate and maintain.<br />
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<b>Relationships</b> <br />
Our business depends on healthy relationships with customers, business partners, and suppliers. We build and nurture strong relationships that are mutually beneficial, making sure that we deeply understand the people we deal with, so that we can anticipate their needs and always aim to exceed their expectations. Everyone in our organisation contributes to the quality of the relationships we build and we actively seek feedback.<br />
<b><br />Social Responsibility </b><br />
Being socially responsible is integral to what we do.We aim to make a positive difference to the communities where we operate and seek ways to assist them. We prioritise the hiring and development of local people and work with local supply chains where we can. We are committed to minimising the impact of our activities on the environment by conserving resources, reducing waste and emissions, and preventing environmental pollution and we work with our customers to provide the best environmental solutions.<br />
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<b>People </b><br />
People are the heart of our business. We are professional, high performing team players focused on delivering and drawing on our global expertise. We aim to attract, develop and retain the best people, treating each other with honesty, compassion and respect. We create a stimulating, fun and open work culture that promotes personal development and work/life balance, rewards competitively and celebrates success.<br />
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<b>Innovation </b><br />
Innovation gives us competitive advantage. We promote collaboration and sharing of ideas across our business. We have a structured approach to recognising innovations, rapidly testing ideas and sharing learning. We encourage our people to challenge established practices and achieve continuous improvement. We are committed to delivering thorough and sound solutions to every challenge.<br />
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<b>Financial Responsibility</b> <br />
We expect to receive fair reward for our business performance. We are cost aware and carefully manage our own and our customers’ costs. We manage financial risk systematically and communicate our financial performance in a clear, concise manner.<br />
<b><br />Integrity</b> <br />
We are proud of our reputation, built over many years, which depends on us consistently doing the right thing. Integrity is our cornerstone and character is as important as ability. We build trust and act with honesty. We comply with our Business Ethics Policy, management system and all local rules and regulations. We foster a culture of transparency and responsibility. We investigate all violations and complaints and take appropriate action.<br />
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A great example of core values used at a high level.</div>
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Core values are the fundamental beliefs of a person or organisation. The core values are the guiding principles that dictate behaviour and action. Core values can help people to know what is right from wrong; they can help companies to determine if they are on the right path and fulfilling their business goals; and they create an unwavering and unchanging guide. There are many different types of core values and many different examples of core values depending upon the context. </div>
<span style="font-size: large;"><b>Core Values About Life</b></span><br />
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Often, when you hear someone discuss why they fell in love with a spouse, they will mention that they have the same values. In this case, they are often talking about core values, or internal beliefs that dictate how life is to be lived. </div>
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Some examples of core values people might have about life include:</div>
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<li>A belief, or lack thereof, in God and/or an affiliation with a religious institution</li>
<li>A belief in being a good steward of resources and in exercising frugality</li>
<li>A belief that family is of fundamental importance</li>
<li>A belief that honesty is always the best policy and that trust has to be earned</li>
<li>A belief in maintaining a healthy work/life balance</li>
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Parents also try to instil these types of positive core values in children.</div>
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Of course, core values don't always have to be positive. Some people may be driven by self-interest or greed, and these are core values too if they dictate the way the people live their lives. </div>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Corporate Core Values</span></b><br />
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Companies can have core values as well. These are the guiding principles that help to define how the corporation would behave. They are usually expressed in the corporation's mission statement.</div>
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Some examples of core values for a company might include:</div>
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<li>A commitment to sustainability and to acting in an environmentally friendly way. Companies like Patagonia and Ben & Jerry's have environmental sustainability as a core value. </li>
<li>A commitment to innovation and excellence. Apple Computer is perhaps best known for having a commitment to innovation as a core value. This is embodied by their "Think Different" motto. </li>
<li>A commitment to doing good for the whole. Google, for example, believes in making a great search engine and building a great company without being evil. </li>
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As you can see, many of the core values that companies have are similar to those that individuals might choose as guiding principles as well.</div>
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Companies may also have negative core values as well. Companies that are solely motivated by profit, such as tobacco companies who lied to their customers about the dangers of smoking, may have been driven by core values of self-interest and an overly strong profit motive. </div>
<span style="font-size: large;"><b>Some Types of Core Values</b></span><br />
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There are countless types of core values, as you can see, so you will need to choose the ones that are right for you or your organisation.</div>
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Here are some examples of core values from which you may wish to choose:</div>
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<li>Dependable</li>
<li>Reliable</li>
<li>Loyal</li>
<li>Committed</li>
<li>Open-minded</li>
<li>Consistent</li>
<li>Honest</li>
<li>Efficient</li>
<li>Innovative</li>
<li>Creative</li>
<li>Humorous</li>
<li>Fun-loving</li>
<li>Adventurous</li>
<li>Motivated</li>
<li>Positive</li>
<li>Optimistic</li>
<li>Inspiring</li>
<li>Passionate</li>
<li>Respectful</li>
<li>Athletic</li>
<li>Fit</li>
<li>Courageous</li>
<li>Educated</li>
<li>Respected</li>
<li>Loving </li>
<li>Nurturing</li>
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While some people or companies might expressly publish their core values, often the best way to identify these values is to which how they act and behave. A core value is only a true core value if it has an active influence and if the people or company manage to live by it, at least most of the time. </div>
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You can see why I love living by core values and mission statements, like my own statement<br />
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<b><i>I enlighten others to succeed though life's challenges.</i></b><br />
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In life we live to certain standards and ethics which come from our learnings, learnt behaviours. when we apply our own core values to our goals and needs for ourselves and others, we apply part of our own passion which comes from our heart.<br />
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So take that time out and look at your own core values and apply them to you goals and needs.<br />
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<b><a href="http://www.businessdictionary.com/definition/mission-statement.html">http://www.businessdictionary.com/definition/mission-statement.html</a></b><br />
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It often helps to write your own affirmations, Write Your
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<b>What Are Positive
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Affirmations are positive thoughts or statements about some
outcome you wish to achieve, such as wealth, success, or health. Instead of
negative self-talk, you can use positive daily affirmations to direct what your
focus will be. You can conquer your past and present fears, and enjoy your
present or create the future by affirmation. Affirmations redirect your values,
help formulate goals, or prepare you for situations, whenever or wherever they
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You can say your positive daily affirmations silently or
aloud to yourself. Repetition of affirmations will also counteract negative
thoughts that may stream through your mind, automatically sometimes. You may
write affirmations on a card ─ carried in your pocket, taped to a mirror, or
placed where it is always visible to you. Repeat your positive affirmations at
intervals throughout your day, to reinforce the positive belief and to maintain
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It takes constant practice to focus on an affirming thought.
Initially, you may not find it easy to hear the affirmation above the internal
noise of negative thoughts and feelings. Given enough time, however, you can
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Self-developed affirmations (the ones you compose yourself)
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To be truly effective, you must write your own affirmations
and believe in them; they must have a profound impact on you emotionally. Your
firm belief that what you are affirming is possible is crucial, because once
you start believing that something is possible, it becomes probable. Without
that firm belief, further repetition of your affirmations will just be futile.
An affirmation should be a belief in yourself. The desires and dreams that your
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The emotional dimension of each affirmation should never be
overlooked. When you can actually ‘feel' your affirmation, not just utter or
read them, their total impact increases immensely. The written affirmations
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You should state your positive daily affirmations in the
present tense, that is, use "I am..." rather than "I will
be..." Saying things in the present tense will program your subconscious
mind to believe that what you affirm is already fact. When the subconscious
believes that, it will start arranging for bringing what you affirm to you. In
other words, the subconscious will drive you to perform the actions needed to
live out what you affirm; and, acting thus, you will create the circumstances
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Another important guideline in formulating your affirmations
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the effectiveness of the affirmation. Affirmations written from the negative
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When you convince yourself not to follow certain behaviour,
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I am wealthy and abundant Positive Daily Affirmations for
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1. All the things I want and need come to me.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I am Successful Positive Daily Affirmations For Success<o:p></o:p></div>
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1. I am successful. <o:p></o:p></div>
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3. I am filled with success.<o:p></o:p></div>
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5. My success is contagious, other people like it, seek it
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6. I attract positive-minded people to me; I draw all things
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7. I am very fortunate to work at what I love to do.<o:p></o:p></div>
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8. I make powerful and enjoyable business relationships and
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I have happy relationships. Positive Daily Affirmations for
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1. I am a confident and positive person, and confident and
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2. I know who I obviously am and what I like in personal
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3. I am attracting powerfully positive and healthy people
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4. I am caring, smart, supportive, loyal, and fun to be
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5. I feel completely at ease and comfortable with all types
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6. I am winning in all my relationships.<o:p></o:p></div>
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7. I am a positive and valuable contributor to my
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8. I possess complete ability to articulate my thoughts and
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Self Esteem Affirmations Positive Daily Affirmations For
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1. I am sure of my ability to do what is necessary to
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7. I have compassion for myself and the way my life has
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I am healthy Positive Daily Affirmations For Health<o:p></o:p></div>
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1. I am glowing with health and wholeness.<o:p></o:p></div>
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8. I create health by expressing love, understanding and
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1. Because your experience will create the conditions that
allow affirmations to manifest, word the affirmations carefully to make them
crystal-clear. State your real, innermost desires and articulate your most
expansive sense of self. Affirmations based on a narrow self-concept deliver
results that fall short, cause suffering, and further diminish the sense of
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2. Be deliberate in your affirmations. Spontaneous thoughts
voiced out in an intense emotional state may produce undesirable effects, so
consider many possible alternatives before choosing the affirmation to silently
intone. Silent affirmations are more effective than spoken statements, because
they entail more intensity of concentration and resonate through your entire
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3. Link your affirmations to actual daily actions to lay the
ground for their manifestation. For instance, affirming that you will win the
lottery can only be set in motion when you play in it.<o:p></o:p></div>
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4. Find a way to make it easy for you to do positive daily
affirmations. You may find that it is not a habit for you to make these
statements on a regular basis. You can of course, choose to do a screensaver,
using PowerPoint slides, with all your positive affirmations in there. This is
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often search on the internet for new quotes and affirmations I even make my own
up then put them on my status for others to share, It is amazing how we get
used to doing it so try it now!<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Rejection comes in many forms and it can be tempting to wallow in self-pity and despair when we have been rejected. Fortunately, there are things we can do that can help us handle rejection with dignity and purpose. Everyone experiences rejection – it is what we do in response that determines how we feel about ourselves. Rejection is scary, because it reminds us that we cannot control people and circumstances. Here are a few ideas of things we can do to overcome the</span> rejection blues.<br />
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<b>Be Aware of Your Emotions</b><br />
Rejection is a form of loss, creating the sense of losing something we thought we had. Being rejected can feel like an outright violation of our expectations, which is why many of us feel offended when we are rejected. When the rejection is very painful or unexpected, it can be scary, making us feel as though the world we live in is unsafe and malevolent. When things do not go the way we expect, we often feel devastated and powerless, especially if we are very attached to a particular outcome.<br />
We can acknowledge our loss, reminding ourselves that our feelings are never unacceptable or wrong, but they are also not entirely true. No matter how extreme or violent our feelings might seem, though, it is important to give ourselves the opportunity to experience them. Anger, sadness and disappointment are all natural responses when dealing with rejection. We can allow for our feelings, whatever they are, without holding onto them. We can let them come, and let them go.<br />
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<b>Practice Acceptance</b><br />
When rejection occurs, one of the ways many of us automatically respond is with denial. We may tell ourselves that this is not happening or that this is all a mistake that will soon be corrected. Denial is a mechanism of self-defence. We deny that something unpleasant is happening because the reality is too painful. We can gently correct ourselves by saying, "This is happening, and it will be okay. This does not mean that I am a bad person or that I have done something wrong."<br />
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<b>Talk to Someone You Trust</b><br />
Another common impulse when dealing with rejection is to isolate and to cut ourselves off from support. This is another way that we unconsciously try to protect ourselves from more pain. Many of us equate relationships (revealing ourselves to others in work, love, family and friendships) with the disappointment that sometimes occurs in those relationships. <br />
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<b>Take Action and Get Moving</b><br />
It does not matter what we do, only that we take action and get moving. We can do dishes, pay bills, organise or finish up that work report we have been neglecting. Purposeful movement clears the mind of the stagnant energy and negative emotions that hang around when we are dealing with rejection. This is a perfect time to do something we have been putting off.<br />
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We are probably thinking, "What’s the use? I will still be miserable, and it will not change the fact that I have been dumped/passed over for that promotion/turned down by my number-one choice for college or school." We can choose to think about it differently. We can be heartbroken in a messy living room that makes us feel even more miserable, or we can take constructive action that will likely lift our spirits and self-esteem.<br />
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Action has a wonderful way of breeding self-confidence and feelings of empowerment. You will feel less like a victim of your circumstances when you take action in an area you can actually control. Though it may sound like torture to suggest cleaning a closet after what feels like the most painful breakup in history the sooner we get moving, the better we will feel.<br />
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It is okay to resist for a while. As soon as we are ready, we can give it a try. If it still seems like an insurmountable, useless task, we can make a deal with ourselves to try it out for fifteen minutes. If we want to stop after 15 minutes, we can stop. But we usually find that the momentum of positive, productive energy created in just those 15 minutes is sufficient to make us want to keep going.<br />
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One of the best times to do something nice for ourselves is when we are dealing with rejection. This serves a dual purpose: we get to do something enjoyable, and in so doing, we also prove to ourselves that we are worth the effort and attention. We can buy ourselves a special gift or get a massage, manicure and pedicure. We can set aside a day in the coming week to do whatever we want to do, whether that means browsing in a bookstore all afternoon sipping coffee, or losing ourselves in an art project. Planning ahead for "me" time brings with it the gift of something to look forward to, which makes difficult situations infinitely more bearable. <br />
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What it does mean, however, is that our thoughts colour our experiences. We have the power to use past success as evidence that future success is possible and, indeed, probable.<br />
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Rejection is a bitter pill to swallow. But its purpose is not gratuitous pain. If we have relationships with other people and if we regularly take risks, rejection is inevitable. Like any experience, rejection teaches a valuable lesson that we simply cannot learn any other way. We can always choose to see that value, although it may be difficult at first. Dealing with rejection in one area of life can teach us to deal more gracefully with our next experience of rejection in a completely different area. Lessons like these build on themselves. We can use our past experiences of rejection to make our future experiences less painful.<br />
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Whether it is a pet, a relative or a stranger, this strategy is particularly effective for coping with rejection. Focusing on someone else’s needs for a time reminds us that we are not the centre of the universe, and that our disappointments are not as devastating and all-encompassing as we make them out to be. Perhaps someone we love is ill, confined to home or hospital bed. We can ask if there is anything we might help that person with, being grateful for our health and our ability to offer help.<br />
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Feeling useful is a fail safe cure for self-pity. We can call a friend and ask how she is, without mentioning or complaining about our circumstances. Take the dog for an extra-long walk, or spend time snuggling with the cat – such small, loving actions centre us, bring us great comfort and remind us that we matter to other beings.<br />
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Rejection can make us feel as though we are failing, and can even lead us to falsely assume that not only have we failed, we are complete failures. Reminding ourselves of specific successes is a great way to remember our assets and accomplishments during a time when we are tempted to focus only on the negative. By focusing on the positive, we give it power in our minds, in our actions and ultimately in our circumstances. This does not mean that thinking positively will ensure that we never experience disappointment.<br />
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If you need help to get back on track and find that happy medium, book a private session with Derek www.ahappymedium.co.uk <a href="https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=12654178" target="_blank"> Book Now!</a> or <a href="mailto:derek@ahappymedium.co.uk" target="_blank">Email</a>A Happy Mediumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13779707603960492624noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8851381834098706543.post-78045247093778982192016-05-04T16:53:00.001-07:002016-05-04T16:53:36.873-07:00Derek's Blog video, explaining his love of Crystals with some inspiring thoughts on the gifts nature give us.<div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "comic sans ms" , sans-serif;">Over the years I have used many different crystals and they still continue to intrigue me. I love having some crystals around me when working as Reiki Spiritual healer, they seem to enhance my work, I first started using a crystal Pendulum in my early days of developing my abilities, it helped me gain confidence, as I would ask yes and no questions, and even ask where certain things were like missing mobile phones and often found them. I now teach others about the healing benefits of crystals and how to use them </span><span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: "comic sans ms" , sans-serif;">effectively.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "comic sans ms" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Why not try going into a crystal shop and just seeing what your drawn to, and see if the meaning off the crystal means anything to you there is loads of information on the net if you know the name of the crystal.</span></div>
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A Happy Mediumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13779707603960492624noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8851381834098706543.post-80674009249063833482016-05-02T14:58:00.000-07:002016-05-02T15:08:13.021-07:00Derek explains about mediumship and shares a poem sent to him about a loss.<div align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt; text-align: center;">
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "monotype corsiva"; font-size: 16pt;">Why cry for a soul set free?</span></b></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "monotype corsiva"; font-size: 16pt;">Miss me a little....but not too long</span></b></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "monotype corsiva"; font-size: 16pt;">and not with your head bowed low,</span></b></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "monotype corsiva"; font-size: 16pt;">Remember the love that we once shared.</span></b></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="color: red; font-family: "monotype corsiva"; font-size: 20pt; line-height: 115%;">Miss me but let me go</span></b></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "monotype corsiva"; font-size: 16pt;">For this is a journey we all must take</span></b></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "monotype corsiva"; font-size: 16pt;">and each must do it alone,</span></b></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "monotype corsiva"; font-size: 16pt;">It’s all a part of the Master’s plan</span></b></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "monotype corsiva"; font-size: 16pt;">a step on the road to home.</span></b></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "monotype corsiva"; font-size: 16pt;">When you are lonely and sick of heart</span></b></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "monotype corsiva"; font-size: 16pt;">go to the friends we know,</span></b></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="font-family: "monotype corsiva"; font-size: 16pt;">Bury your sorrows in doing good deeds</span></b></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="color: red; font-family: "monotype corsiva"; font-size: 20pt; line-height: 115%;">Miss me but let me go</span></b></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-GB" style="color: red; font-family: "monotype corsiva"; font-size: 20pt; line-height: 115%;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: red;">Sent by a friend, who lost his </span></span><span style="color: red;">wife.</span></span></b></div>
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<span style="text-align: left;">If you feel it would help to have a chat or session with me feel free to get in touch, remember there is no guarantee I can connect, as it is classed as experimental.</span></div>
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Client comments - My 5 friends and I arranged to have Derek give us individual readings recently and everyone was impressed by his talents. One skeptical friend came back from her reading in happy tears after receiving a message from her recently deceased relative. The following day she looked relaxed and happy - for the first time since the funeral she told me she felt as if a huge weight had been lifted.</div>
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So on behalf of us all - thank you for sharing your skills Derek - we will be recommending you to others!</div>
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Liz and friends<span style="text-align: left;"> </span><span style="text-align: left;"> </span></div>
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<span style="text-align: left;">Call or text 07468119634</span></div>
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<span style="text-align: left;">web </span><span style="text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.ahappymedium.co.uk/mediumship.html">http://www.ahappymedium.co.uk/mediumship.html</a></span></div>
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